Protective services became involved in the situation several months ago after my h, an ex-police officer, held his service gun to his head threatening to blow his head off with my 5 year olf son in the home. My h left for a fishing trip the next day and never told me where he was going on this trip and when I hadn't heard from my h in 6 days, which wasn't like him, I called a friend of mine who works at mental health to ask how concerned I needed to be regarding my H's suicidal threats. My friend called protective services because of the abuse around me and fears the kids might be in harms way. The protective services worker told me should he get another report from this home, he would pull the kids put them in foster care releasing them back into my custody only if I put my H out of the home guranteeing the kids had no more exposure to the abuse. The night the police came the officer said he wouldn't file a report on the call this time but should he return to our home he would and would notify protective services. My husband refuses to get into anger management, he deny's that what he does is abuse and laughs in my face when I try to explain the seriousness of the situation with Protective Services. He believes that PS has no authority to pull the kids from the home and tells me that the case worker involved a few months back is just using scare tactics. Unless there is a grand miricle and my H see's the light so to speak, I have to do whatever it takes to keep my children

CS...<P>There are several types of fog, not just the A, and often a spouse in that fog doesnt see the light until a crisis happens to shake the foundation they have built on sand. Protect those kids and you at all costs!!!!!<P>Trueheart

cloudseeker,<P>This does not sound good. TrueHeart is right. Protect yourself and your children at all costs. You and the children should not be in the house with this man until he does some serious work on himself. This has to happen before you can even start to work on marital recovery. <P>And think of what your children are learning!! If PS pulls your kids out to a foster home they will suffer terribly for this. <P>Please think of leaving him or making him leave. I cannot believe that the police did not write a report. At least there is a record with PS.<P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

Dear Cloudseeker,<BR>I pray with all my heart that you will have the courage to do the right thing and to protect yourself and your kids.<P>It won't be the end of the world if you go forward with taking responsibility. Your husband is not in his right mind so you can't expect him to give rational answers now.<P>You have to be the logical thinker now. If something happened that resulted in a tragedy, you wouldn't want to be looking back and thinking what you should have, could have, would have done.<P>Listen to your gut instincts, not your feelings. Feelings are fickle. Do what you know to be the right thing. God will help you. Please don't wait until someone ends up hurt. HUGS from California!