I have a question. I have been talking and thinking. I think that part of the reason for my A. had to do with my S. Abuse when I was a young child. I have always maintained that the rpesent doesn't have to do with the past. The day before my A. all of this finally really came out in my family. (It happened to me and two sisters). Then my sister decides to suddenly get engaged to this guy who has been treating her like crap, cheating on her and stuff. On top of that my H. told me that it was my duty to help him when he was drinking. I tried to and he threw me out of the building he was in. At this point I had no hope. I guess my attitude had become "I'm tired of being accused of having an A. with someone". I called OM, because I had nowhere else to turn (I thought). My H. came home and threw me into the wall giving me a concussion. A. happened next day. I talked to OM once afterward to apologize for what had happened and we both agreed it was stupid and said our goodbyes. I saw him once after and ignored him. I just am trying to pin down exact reasons for why I would do something so stupid and wondered if anyone thought it had to do with S. abuse. Counselors said probably a little, but mostly other E. abuse??? HelP???

Rain, I don't really know how to reply. There are many reasons why your A may have occurred, it doesn't make it right, but it may explain alot of things so that you can prevent it from happening again.<P>I can tell you that I was S. abused as a child and I was not the one that had the affair, it was my H. It could have alot to do with the way you feel about yourself and the way you view sex, but I wouldn't say it's a definate factor. <P>Are you going to counseling? I think a counselor could really help you get to the bottom of this. <P>LOL,<BR>HbH<P>

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Rain, I don't really know how to reply. There are many reasons why your A may have occurred, it doesn't make it right, but it may explain alot of things so that you can prevent it from happening again.<P>I can tell you that I was S. abused as a child and I was not the one that had the affair, it was my H. It could have alot to do with the way you feel about yourself and the way you view sex, but I wouldn't say it's a definate factor. <P>LOL,<BR>HbH<P>

Rain, I don't really know how to reply. There are many reasons why your A may have occurred, it doesn't make it right, but it may explain alot of things so that you can prevent it from happening again.<P>I can tell you that I was S. abused as a child and I was not the one that had the affair, it was my H. It could have alot to do with the way you feel about yourself and the way you view sex, but I wouldn't say it's a definate factor. <P>LOL,<BR>HbH<P>

Rain, I don't really know how to reply. There are many reasons why your A may have occurred, it doesn't make it right, but it may explain alot of things so that you can prevent it from happening again.<P>I can tell you that I was S. abused as a child and I was not the one that had the affair, it was my H. It could have alot to do with the way you feel about yourself and the way you view sex, but I wouldn't say it's a definate factor. <P>LOL,<BR>HbH<P>

Rain, I don't really know how to reply. There are many reasons why your A may have occurred, it doesn't make it right, but it may explain alot of things so that you can prevent it from happening again.<P>I can tell you that I was S. abused as a child and I was not the one that had the affair, it was my H. It could have alot to do with the way you feel about yourself and the way you view sex, but I wouldn't say it's a definate factor. <P>LOL,<BR>HbH<P>

Rain, I don't really know how to reply. There are many reasons why your A may have occurred, it doesn't make it right, but it may explain alot of things so that you can prevent it from happening again.<P>I can tell you that I was S. abused as a child and I was not the one that had the affair, it was my H. It could have alot to do with the way you feel about yourself and the way you view sex, but I wouldn't say it's a definate factor. <P>LOL,<BR>HbH<P>

Rain, I don't really know how to reply. There are many reasons why your A may have occurred, it doesn't make it right, but it may explain alot of things so that you can prevent it from happening again.<P>I can tell you that I was S. abused as a child and I was not the one that had the affair, it was my H. It could have alot to do with the way you feel about yourself and the way you view sex, but I wouldn't say it's a definate factor. <P>LOL,<BR>HbH<P>

Rain, I don't really know how to reply. There are many reasons why your A may have occurred, it doesn't make it right, but it may explain alot of things so that you can prevent it from happening again.<P>I can tell you that I was S. abused as a child and I was not the one that had the affair, it was my H. It could have alot to do with the way you feel about yourself and the way you view sex, but I wouldn't say it's a definate factor. <P>LOL,<BR>HbH<P>

Rain, I don't really know how to reply. There are many reasons why your A may have occurred, it doesn't make it right, but it may explain alot of things so that you can prevent it from happening again.<P>I can tell you that I was S. abused as a child and I was not the one that had the affair, it was my H. It could have alot to do with the way you feel about yourself and the way you view sex, but I wouldn't say it's a definate factor. <P>LOL,<BR>HbH<P>

Rain, I don't really know how to reply. There are many reasons why your A may have occurred, it doesn't make it right, but it may explain alot of things so that you can prevent it from happening again.<P>I can tell you that I was S. abused as a child and I was not the one that had the affair, it was my H. It could have alot to do with the way you feel about yourself and the way you view sex, but I wouldn't say it's a definate factor. <P>LOL,<BR>HbH<P>

Rain, I don't really know how to reply. There are many reasons why your A may have occurred, it doesn't make it right, but it may explain alot of things so that you can prevent it from happening again.<P>I can tell you that I was S. abused as a child and I was not the one that had the affair, it was my H. It could have alot to do with the way you feel about yourself and the way you view sex, but I wouldn't say it's a definate factor. <P>LOL,<BR>HbH<P>

Here Raine,<P>I am posting a reply to see if that will kick in your responses. <P>L.<BR>

Rain, I don't really know how to reply. There are many reasons why your A may have occurred, it doesn't make it right, but it may explain alot of things so that you can prevent it from happening again.<P>I can tell you that I was S. abused as a child and I was not the one that had the affair, it was my H. It could have alot to do with the way you feel about yourself and the way you view sex, but I wouldn't say it's a definate factor. <P>LOL,<BR>HbH<P>

HA!! I have like 10-bazillino replies to you. I will try to delete some.

HBH,<P>Thank YOU!!!! I did not feel like that was a defining factor, but my H. seemed to think that had everything to do with it. I have been to counseling when I was younger and I went a little while we have been married. The two counselor's I have been to since we have been married, my h. has insisted on coming in with me and they didn't say anything to him. I have made an appointment and I will be starting up again soon. This time I'm going alone.

Rainefall, Good for you!! I hope it will help you. <P>LOL,<BR>HbH

HBH,<P>I just wanted you to know that I'm glad you posted so many times. It made me smile and added to me good day.