I haven't posted in awhile....what can I say. This whole mess seems so impossible. I just wish I could somehow get it OUT of my MIND. No matter what I do...it just runs through my head. Things just get worse. I know I need to do something...anything...but I feel like I'm stuck. I just want it to STOP. The longer it goes on...the worse it gets. I'm devastated. I'm so broken hearted and overwhelmed. Everything is destroying right before my eyes. I have NO motivation...NO hope. I'm so mixed up...I wish it would just END. <P>

Hurtwife {{{HUGS}}}<P>I'm sorry that you feel this way. I don't know your story but I do feel your pain. I am also stuck. I can't seem to get the past out of my head. I have no real wisdom to offer you. I just wanted you to know that someone is out here and your not alone. I hope you feel better. Keep your head up and keep trudging along. Things have to get better soon.<P>{{{{hugs}}}}<P>NM <P>

Hurtwife,<P>I don't know you story either. But as I am a WS I kinda know what you mean about Can't stand this. I want to work on our relationship but she doesn't know what she wants to do.<BR>She is getting alot of "Leave him" from her family and then their is me begging for her forgiveness and I want to make everything better and make our house a home again and that I love her. Her up and downs are making me Crazy....<P>MarkC

Don't know your story but can understand the wanting it to be over, the hurt, just wanted you to know you aren't alone.

NewMe2001, MarkC, 2tired2care:<P>Thanks for you replies...sorry you are going through this too. My story is on here if you want to read it you can search under the my name. <P>I'm the BS...WH just up and moved out one day, to live with OW. It was a total shock and still is, I had NO clue. H is still with OW, it will be a year this month. It's been H*LL, H has been horrible and so has OW. Since he has left, he wants nothing to do with me. OW is vicious and wants me completely out of the picture. There is and has been no contact for about 6 mths, except for court now. Before that little contact and WH was awful to me. It's bad and just keeps getting worse. OW is pushing everything she can to get at me and they are both are hateful, vindictive. It's crazy. I think he has lost his mind, he's on self-destruct. I just can't understand why or how he could even be with someone like that. <BR>

My H left 7 months ago and moved in with ow. Same here. He is mean and angry. Rarely sees kids. Boy, does she have a hold on him. I feel the same way as you. It is their loss. We still have respect from our friends and family. Hang in there.

My H left 7 months ago and moved in with ow. Same here. He is mean and angry. Rarely sees kids. Boy, does she have a hold on him. I feel the same way as you. It is their loss. We still have respect from our friends and family. Hang in there.

Hugs Hurtwife...<P>I was thinking about you just the other day and wondering how you were doing...I am sorry things are still so hard for you...<P>Keep posting...we are here for you, even if just to listen...<P><BR>Cali

gabby2:<P>I'm so sorry for so much pain here. Yes, I constantly wonder how OW's can have so much control. It is WH's loss for they are clueless and shallow. I feel deeply for the children. I'm trying to hang in here, although it is extremely difficult. <P>Thank you for your reply...I wish you the better times.<BR>

Cali:<P>It's so nice to be thought of..thanks bunches...and for being here. Makes me not feel so ALONE. I wonder if things will EVER get any better.<P>((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))

<B><P>I'm the BS...WH just up and moved out one day, to live with OW. It was a total shock and still is, I had NO clue. H is still with OW, it will be a year this month. It's been H*LL, H has been horrible and so has OW. Since he has left, he wants nothing to do with me. OW is vicious and wants me completely out of the picture</B><P>Dear Hurtwife,<BR> My situation is exactly as yours, H left almost 2 months ago to live w/OW. I had NO clue. NO word from him. Not one. BUT I don't torture myself to see or talk to them. I WILL NOT call her place, or try to call his cell. It's totally his move now. He sent D papers, but I refused to sign. He tells everyone "her attorney can talk to mine if she needs me." Only problem, I don't HAVE an attorney! Couldn't afford one if I did!<BR> Do you pray for your H? This will go the furthest toward getting him to turn back to you. Nothing else will work. Getting into arguments with him or her will not work, begging pleading, nothing. Please do not lower yourself to do it (not that you are!)<BR> Turn everyday to the Living God who made you and who knows you better than you know yourself, and your H too, and HE WILL restore your H's love for you and bring him home.<BR>I will pray for you.<BR>Lupolady<P>

HurtWife,<P>I too have been wondering about you. Was hoping that things were getting better. Guess not.<P>I'm so sorry for the pain you are in. Do you think that perhaps you are in a deep depression? How could you not be? Have you looked into getting medication? The reason I say this is that you seem stuck in this terrible situation. You need to start taking care of you and moving on. But it is so very hard. You need to be strong no matter the outcome of this. <P>{{{{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

lupolady:<P>Oh I don't see or talk to WH. I know better by now. I saw him in court, but I had no choice. I saw OW and H's kids there too...how tacky the flaunting OW...how sad dragging in the kids. <P>I won't call either, it was WH that got a place, OW moved right in. H is her total support, dumped his responsibilities here, but he is paying for HER. What gets me is he had told me many times, since he left, that he was nothing but a paycheck to me. Well, isn't it ironic, he's nothing but a paycheck to OW. Only thing is he can't see it.<P>Yes, I've been praying my butt off, every since this happened. It's in God's hands now. I already know nothing else will work, I've probably tried too much before I found this MB site.<P>I don't feel that my H's love will be restored or that he will come home. That certainly would be a miracle. I think there have been too many bridges burned, I just can't fathom his return, with everything that has happened. I feel this is beyond repair under the circumstances. Yet, for some unknown reason I still love him. <P>You can read my other posts, if you want, they will explain.<P>Thank you for your prayers....I need them. Sorry you are going through this and I will pray for you also.<BR>

zorweb:<P>Sorry to say things are not any better....and just keep getting worse. I'm sure filing criminal charges....really did it...but, I wouldn't have if he didn't create the situation. <P>I know I'm depressed, but who wouldn't be. You're right "How could I not be"? I was reading some information last night on divorce. This was written:<BR>"If you are going through a divorce and you feel uncertain, insecure, or depressed, then you have a fairly normal problem. If you are going through a divorce and you feel no uncertainty, insecurity, or depression, then you probably have a big problem." <P>I was on medication before, up and until WH stopped paying the health insurance, so there is NONE. Also, they are suing him for breach of contract, another court hearing scheduled. <P>Actually, it was good that I stopped taking the medication. <BR>It was worse when I was on it. I didn't even realize how bad...I was placid and vacillating between indecision and indecision. I was also overwhelmed with anxiety. I thought if I was this bad off on it...I'd be horribly worse without it. The doctor kept telling me I had to take it. When the insurance ran out I had no choice, but to stop taking it. I felt better without it. Family even told me I wasn't myself before and now I sound more like me. <P>I know it's all the situation, and until the situation changes, it will be a matter of trying to hang on and get through it. Yes, I am stuck, because it just keeps raining and has turned into a full fledged flood here. There are so many issues and problems. It so much to deal with and it is extremely hard. <P>For now I'm trying to hang on and muddle through. My strength is so drained.<P>I thank you so very much for your support and being here for me.<P>May God help us all.<BR>May God Bless.

Dear HW,<P>Oh I can hear your pain so clearly in your posts. I am truly sorry for all that hurt that your H has put on you. <P>Ok now, we can't reach your H or fix him for you, yet. Let's concentrate on you. You are in the dumps right now and feel abandoned and unloved right? Yep, me too. <P>I am sure there are more out there feeling the same way. Let's try to help each other. My hand is extended to you right now asking you to pick some flowers (from your garden or local store) and put them on your table. Brighten up the home a bit. If you are like me, you will have to go to the store since my green thumb is a killer with plants. But H is a gardener. As you can tell by my name, I like Orchids but carnations and lilys are nice. What kind do you like?<P>Miss Priss, is also having a hard day. Maybe we can extend a hand and help her also. HW, you have been on this path for quite a while. Is there still hope for your H? Yes. But it is up to him. You can help you and so can we. You know you have more support behind you than your H does. OWs are not good supporters. Takers and whiners for the most part. The logic as to why H is with them? There isn't any. Don't try to find what is not there. Spend time doing constructive things. When your H does decide to see how you have been doing, be able to show him that you are ok. H will be jealous and you will be able to smile. Let's make that our goal. OK?<P><<<<hugs to you today>>>>><P>L.<BR>