OK.....today....I'm just fed up!!!!<BR>I loe my WH with everything that I have....but he doesn't seem to care about anyone but himself anymore.<BR>Our oldest broke down last night right before he called and started crying.....cried while she was on the phone with him and then again afterwards. How can he not see what this is doing to our children. Oh yes.....I am angry.<BR>Angry that he thinks that these kids will be ok.<BR>What do they have to be ok with.....their father left them.<BR>They are afraid that everybody else is going to leave eventually also.<BR>My oldest told me that she knows her dad left us for HER (meaning the OW) and that he must love the OW more than he loves her and her sisters. Has flat out told me that if her father is going to be with the OW she will never go with him. She hasn't told him that.<BR>She's afraid to tell him how she feels for fear of making him mad.....but then on the other hand she says....why should I care.....he didn't care how I felt when he decided to leave. All this from a 10 yr old girl.<BR>This is supposed to be a time in their lives when they don't have a care in the world.......but all they do is ask for their dad....don't understand why he won't come home. Want to know if he will come home.<BR>Our middle daughter who is 4 won't even go to the bathroom by herself anymore because she's afraid I won't be where I was when she comes out.....yes....she said that. She doesn't want to be alone at all.....plus she will be going through a terrible time in a little over a week with her eye surgery procedures starting. She's going to want her daddy even more. He doesn't seem to care.<BR>Our youngest who is 3 is in limbo land....everything is ok when daddy comes to visit....but when daddy leaves....it's I want my daddy....when she gets a little booboo or when she doesn't feel good...or just when she's mad....which is alot lately.<BR>When I try to discipline them....I immediately get....I want daddy.....why isn't daddy here?<BR>He won't explain anything to them.....just says I'm sorry....or I can't. How cruel to leave them hanging like that. I've tried to explain as best as I could.<BR>Last night was a bad night for us here.......I haven't slept in my bedroom since he left......and the girls won't sleep in their beds either. At midnight I heard our middle daughter get up...she has a habit of crawling in bed with us.....I saw her walk back to our bedroom and when she didn't immediately come back in the living room I went to see what she was doing.<BR>The poor thing was standing in the middle of my bedroom staring at our bed.....when she noticed I was standing behind her she said.......daddy didn't stay mommy....why isn't daddy here....why isn't he home.<BR>I couldn't help it....I started crying.....for her hurt and all the pain she was going through and didn't understand.<BR>I carried her back in the living room with me....and held her tight while she cried. She finally fell back asleep saying that she wanted daddy to stay.<P>Oh how my heart breaks for my girls.....and how he can be so callous as to do this to him. He has so many people telling him.....your kids will be ok.....it'll all work out.<BR>That's not fair....who knows if his kids will be ok....and why take the chance that they will not?<P>I'm running on anger now....not sure what to do.<BR>My Plan A doesn't seem to be going anywhere......and Plan B would just get turned around to make it look like I wanted out.......no matter what I say and how many times I tell him I love him. He's trying to convince himself that I am over it.....it's the only reason he actually told me he didn't think it would work anyway.....because he thought I would agree.<P>I don't understand what is going through his head....and I don't want to understand anymore.....it would hurt too much to know. He has no heart when it comes to us anymore....all he can think about is what he wants....and right now....it seems to be the OW.<P>I'm so sick of this waiting game.<BR>

MP...<P>I realize what you are saying about Plan B, but it may be your only resort. I would suggest you make a phone appt with Steve and get his take on it. I would say it is time to protect you and the kids, and Plan B lets that happen. It gives you time to grow and work on you, without contact and give H what he wants, *right now*. But I am not the expert..I think a phone appt with Steve would help you sort it all out. Any other Longtime MBers have an opinion?<P>Trueheart

Tears for your little ones <P> Yes Plan B may be the course to take. For you and the little ones. <P> My heart aches for your children right now, and you as well. Please keep us posted.<P> Jerry