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One final contact before plan B
#929134 07/14/01 01:15 AM
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It seems it's in order to give WH one final 'chance' before going to planB.Shall I ask him to meet me for dinner in a restaurant during his evening time with her? If he showed, this would be a big deal.<BR>Or should I ask him to talk with Steve Harley or another councellor? Another idea is to just set up a counselling session and tell him I'd like for him to be there. Then just wait and see if he shows. My WH has a huge problem with committing to anything beforehand, even when he's not wayward.<P>Any ideas?
Re: One final contact before plan B
#929135 07/14/01 01:49 AM
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Maezy,<P>If you don't mind my asking, how many chances have you given your husband? Assuming a lot, do you think he deserves a special night out, and be given another chance to return his heart to you? Will you get the results you desire?<P>Or Maezy, will you be set up for another disappointment? Of course my answer is colored by my own perspective. If I even approached my husband about a reconciliation (the 487th), I would be rejected and my feeling of self-worth and self-esteem (what's left) would be denuded.<P>If you have a good shot, go for it. Don't let yourself get hurt again. You've been through so much already. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Nell [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>------------------<BR>One faces the future with one's past.<BR>--Pearl S. Buck
Re: One final contact before plan B
#929136 07/14/01 06:41 AM
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ditto Nell<P>With your anxiety high, getting turned down once again will set you up to LB big time. This is exactly NOT what you want just before Plan B. He won't receive it the right way and it may not do you the best good. Remember, Plan B is more about YOUR freedom.<P>The best preps for Plan B, IMHO, is to finish off Plan A flawlessly - no recent LBs - after you've made sure you have demonstrated your improvements.<P>Good Luck,<BR>WAT

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