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#929368 07/15/01 05:59 AM
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H Moved furniture last Sunday as posted earlier. Our son asked me last Sunday night if I could set him up with a coucillor. So I asked H to check insurance at work to see if they would cover the visits and he has yet to do that. I cried all week and our son has been doing out of character things because he is angry with H and does not know how else to express his anger. Thursday morning H calls and sz he has no food and would like to skip a payment on a loan. I said NO and that night he came down and took our son to a movie when they came back I gave H some food out of our freezer and veggies and things to get him through to next Friday. H had over $400.00 last Friday and by Thursday it was all gone! Then yesterday come to find out he had on a new pair of jeans and bought a new CD and went out to lunch with our son. Now everyone has been telling me that I should not have given him the food the other night. I am so confused that I do not know if I did the right thing or not. Yesterday I left before he got here to pick up our son and I never came home until 10 pm in time for him to leave. That is what time his visitation time is over. I never told my son where I was or even mentioned where I went for the day. Is this the right thing to do D-Day was 8 weeks ago. If not familiar with my story please see previous posts. If anyone has any advice either WS or BS please help.

#929369 07/15/01 07:45 AM
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<B> Is this the right thing to do D-Day was 8 weeks ago. If not familiar with my story please see previous posts. If anyone has any advice either WS or BS please help.</B><P>Still,<BR> Don't worry about giving him the food. This is good Plan A activity. Just "love him" and love him. It can't hurt. Don't worry what he's spending money on. Keep reading, posting, praying (if you do) and getting better and better every day for you. <P>Sorry, I haven't read your story, but you've still go to do Plan A stuff now, and on son too, as it is basically "unconditional love" concepts, and sounds like son could use some of those feelings right about now. It will get better, but you've got to concentrate on YOU now, and take ccare of yourself. I know that when everyone told me that, I didn't want to believe it.I thought I'm OK, I just want my H back!! But they are right. You must Plan A your Butt off, but meanwhile, just make sure you stay sane and happy. This will show through to your H and he will wonder what's going on.<P>Good luck! I will pray for your son to not be so angry and hurt. It's hardest on the kids. We think we are going through the wringer, well, I guess they go through it BACKWARDS! Since this involves BOTH their parents, and they are totally powerless to help at all either of them. And oftentimes they feel responsible for what's happening, even though they aren't. <P>Take care,<BR>Lupo<BR>


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