To PaytonRose.. don't give up! We love you here!<P>To Everyone else.. How many of you wanted to give up in the first couple months after D-Day and then stuck it out and are glad for that? How long did it take your WS's to get out of withdrawal and perk up and stuff?<BR>Thanks!

Mommabear,thanks for your thoughts but i have already given up. I have no more love units or whatever they call them here for my H any longer. I love him still but not enough to make this work with him. I already called him today to let him know how i felt and that i would be taking the kids and moving out. we should ahve done this a long time ago. But then thats when i had hope for us. That maybe we could work it out, but no longer. I am too tired and to emotionally exhausted to give him any more, he's taken all my energy just to make it this far. I do not wish to pursue a life with him. He made his choice, and i know he's sorry but that is not enough for me. I have a life and 4 kids to raise by myself so i don't have any more time or energy to spend on him. I need to be on my own and make a life for me and my kids. Maybe i might find someone else in the far off future, who knows? NAyhow, thanks for trying to pick me up.

I am sure all of us here at one time or another has felt just the same way as you. Talk to Steve, are you still counseling with him? You said in one of your posts that you had an appointment with him. Pray and ask God to lead you and guide you through this terrible trying time. Everyone here nows how hard the road is after discovery. We are here for you. Keep posting. Let us know how your doing. <P>Mommabear<BR>that which does not kill you only makes you stronger.

{{{{{{Payton Rose}}}}}}<P>I replied to your thread in recovery, don't know if you saw it. I didn't know you posted here as well. I'm so sorry that you feel that it's over. I would like suggest to you that it is awfully early to make that choice. You can always make it later on, but if you make it now, while your still so upset, it can cloud your judgement of the situation. <P>Do you think you could give it to the 6 month mark and then make your choice? I've been there, lots of times, and I'm so glad now that I decided to stick it out and give it some time. Things really do heal with time. If you feel like you can't meet his EN's and all that right now, then don't, I didn't even start worrying about that stuff until a month or two ago, I just couldn't. But I am so glad I hung in there.<P>Even if it doesn't work out, don't you think the number of years you have together is worth giving it 6 months time to try to recover??<P>