Hey there again all...<BR>Well, there's slow progress...but small setbacks...<BR>He still works with the OW...which really can't be helped right now...finances too tight for a move...at least for about 3 weeks or so...<BR>This woman kills me...she tells all kinds of lies about him behind his back while at the same time still talking sweetly to him as "friends"...<BR>He'll never fully get out of withdrawl at this rate...<BR>She is the one that broke it off first months ago...then he broke it off again...then her again....and they didn't really resume anything in between those last 2 except just talking to each other?...geez....<BR>I know he hasn't been with her...I can tell that she's been tempting him and telling him off simultaneously...<BR>Am really hoping he can see the evilness of that type of treatment...it looks like it is slowly getting into his brain....<BR>Today he acted angry at me all day while we did all the running for bills and so forth...turns out he didn't want to ride along??...he never told me until afterwards...and I had to drag it out of him...I didn't like feeling like I did something wrong when I didn't...I didn't demand him to go anywhere...he came on his own...then said I would have been angry if he didn't??..I told him...hey...I had no idea ya didn't want to come along...I wouldn't have been mad...geez...what does he think I did while we were separted?...Like I said to him...I didn't beg him to help me run around at all?...he remembered that...so his search for old behavior came up flat and he was angry for it...<BR>I could see he was looking for a justification for being angry at his own lack of communication??...well I didn't let him get away with it...he was doing that so he could think of something to use to try to get what's her name back...and I blew that out of the water...<BR>The fact is that I"ve changed and he knows it...I had been laid off for a week from work and he thought things were going back to what they were....WRONG...they called me back in starting Sunday night....threw him for a loop I guess...<BR>Anyway he acted better after I told him he should have asked me and that I wouldn't have been mad which is true...<BR>Heck I had planned on doing it all by myself with the kids anyway??...So he was mad at himself I suppose for not opening his mouth...<BR>He is severly lacking on communication now...and I think he realized it today when I told him to quit assuming things...heck he yelled it back when I said he was angry...well sitting in the car he was in angry "silence"...that's definitely him mad about something....<BR>This time I wouldn't let him justify being angry at me for something I really didn't have a clue about!...I stood up for what was right...and I didn't yell about it....I stayed calm....<BR>But now I know...he's looking for me to revert to old behavior from before the "A"...he won't find it...<BR>Oh well...tis been a long day...just needed to get that out...and he didn't say he was going to his parents' again either...he'll be coming back here...<BR>His clothes are still over there...but he really hasn't been able to get them washed...no time lately to get it done...he's been with us constantly so I know that's true...<BR>Also if he still doesn't want to bring the clothes back yet...I can understand and won't push him on it...his MLC is still ongoing...still hearing stupid stuff off and on...but not as bad as it was before....<BR>He is talking about getting a second job at the place he was thinking of switching to...I have hopes that maybe he's trying to get his foot in the door there so he can just dump the other place....since I'm back to work again...<BR>ONly time will tell....I'm not getting hopeful about it though...just watching to see how this all is playing out....he's been honest about his feelings and I am being honest about mine no matter how hard it is for him to hear it....it's hard for me to hear his...it's only fair for him to hear mine....<BR>Oh well...I really needed to vent about this...I think me standing up saying that the change in my attitude was permanent kinda woke him up more...<BR>Also the guy in the drive thru hitting on me blatantly right in front of him drove him over the edge too...LOL....<BR>He became jealous....LOL....<BR>Which is a good sign...just needed to vent it out today....slow progress....but progress none the less...I just really wish that OW would stop playing mind games with him...it's really cruel....or even better that he would finally completely call her on it...he knows she's doing it....<BR>