I'M SUPPOSE TO BE GOING THROUGH PLAN A. But things around here are more normal than usual. My H is complaining a lot. I called the dentist to make an appointment and it wasn't soon enough!? I just want to cry. He teasesme about "doing it with other women"(this is normal for him), but some times I get tired of hearing it. I was present during a conversation with his brother about going after other women, and I teased him stating "you did." He quickly told me to shut up. He feels as though this A is no one elses business(like his brother, who just left his wife for another woman-different situation). I feel like he just wants to forget it ever happened, I would love to, but she is still around on the weekends. She works second shift during the week, thank GOD! Any opinions on what stage we are at in this relationship would help or how to deal with his grouchiness. He'll probably apologize for his behavior(groughiness), tonight, when I get home from work. It just depresses me , that's all.

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