MB in recovery,<BR>I did not have access to an online service when I was going through my H A, fog, etc. To make my story short - H had A in small town, I went straight to plan B then started on plan A.(I never heard of Dr. Harley or MB)We are now in recovery -- 2 years back together, married 20, 3 years since A. <BR>Here is my problem - as I see it. My H has always said he can't remember, it doesn't matter, it's in the past.....about many of the questions I have asked him. One of my most ardinant requests was to know if the OW EVER tries to make contact with him, or he contacts her. I know this is a MB to 'affair proof' a marriage. That is why I told him about one of my old boy friends calling me this week.(I dated this man during our one year seperation)My H became very quiet and withdrawn. He has since stopped sharing anything with me. I'm not sure if he is angry at me or thinks I'm having an A. No I am not. I told him everything about my phone conversation and told him that I did NOT want this man in my life! I want my H. Now, I'm not sure I did the right thing. It appears I'm being tested. I'm scared he is going to contact the OW and use my honesty as an excuss. (Remember we live in a very small town, she lives in a rent house that his parents own next door to them, and she will be teaching my 14 year old son this fall. Small town enough for you?) All our family is in this area so we chose not to move away. <P>I see many of the same withdrawn caracterists now as I saw when he was involved with the OW. He tested me, and shared nothing with me. He just glares at me. <P>This reconciliation has been a roller coaster ride, somewhat calmer as each day passes but still bumpy at times. <P>Is there anyone out there that can help me understand him and what he is going through? <P>Thanks to all<BR>JuJu
