Sunday is my our 6th anniversary. Alone is a pretty lousy way to spend it! W is back in her new home town(with OM-but they broke up she promises). When we exchanged gifts on Thurs, we laughed a sick laugh at the fact that it's pretty hard to find "This whole situation sucks!!! Happy Anniversary!" cards. When the woman of my dreams cheats on me and takes my son, but then continues to give me Christian books, crosses, and Bible quote cards, I feel very uncomfortable. Should I tell her to please not give me that kind of stuff as the hypocracy drives me nuts, or should I just enjoy her effort?<BR> By the way, Plan Aing as I am, I've made a long list of things I am thankful for about her that I will share with her in the morning. Anything else anyone can think of to try to deposit any more love units on that call?<BR>

Is admiration her top need? If it's not, then figure out what her top two needs are and work on being the best at those two. Don't tell her not to give you those kinds of gifts. That would be a HUGE LB. Let it go. Bite your tongue.<BR>Is there anyway for you two to be lving in the same house? Plan A is much easier this way.<BR>Sorry for the crappy anniversary, I know how it feels all to well.

Fragged.......tell ME about wedding anniversaries You know a bit about my story whereas my H is incarcerated over 1000 miles from our home. This coming October will be our Silver Anniversary and I don't expect him home. Now what the heck can I do to make the occassion memorable for me?????? Talk about sucky, sucky!!!!<P>And, I agree that your W's gifts hinting of Christian faith is overkill. Hypocrisy with religion is a very sore point with me. I don't even want to go there.....for sure!! You have every right to question her motives. Then, again, we are talking WS FOG....thick as peanut butter, ya' know?!<P>Take care, friend....<P>------------------<BR><B>Time heals all wounds as long as you DON'T pick at them!</B>

Cleopatra, don't you know that I would do anything to live in the same house as she does(with the exception of moving to her and OM's new home town), but she made that a little harder when she moved 600+ miles to be with him. <BR> <BR>Admiration I covered pretty well while she was still here. Like several of the other things I excelled in, it missed the mark for her. Affection was one thing I was very good at, but that wasn't so important for her either. I think conversation and recreational companionship were her top 2, if not really close. I only have the ability to meet the conversation(in a limited sense), honesty, and financal right now. <BR> She is LOATHE to think about moving back to a place she hates, but I see this as the only place we can pick up the pieces. After our marriage is strong again, I've promised her we can move almost anywhere WE decide to go.<BR> Thanks again, GeezLouise. I've not gotten much response from any of the questions I've asked with the exception of yours. Thank you. Although I can imagine ALOT after all this garbage, I can't imagine what it is like for you to spend so many 'special' days alone. I know I wasn't all that excited to go to work all day yesterday and spend time around all the happy people. They asked me all day, "Why are you so serious?". Just managed to croak out that it was my anniversary. If I'd said any more, the thin veil of calmness would have been lifted and the tears would have come. My heart goes out to you. I didn't see if there was an end in sight for you. How much longer does he have before he gets out? Can you even see him in Oct?