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I haven't been able to spend much time on computer this week so I thought I'd try and bring this story up to date and see if it helps clear my thoughts... <P>After a terrible last week-end, this one has been quieter. I guess telling H that I was through with it all did have some effect. He was in a bad mood the first of the week (I guess getting caught on OW porch didn't do much for him)but he seems somewhat calmer now and is trying to "be a good husband". I honestly don't think he has it in him. I really think he is so centered on himself that that's all he sees. I haven't mentioned last week-end again. I've been trying to behave and make some happy memories for all of us. We are going to sit back and wait and see what happens over the next 9 months while he is away. It was suggested to me in a post that absence makes the heart grow fonder... guess I'll be able to let you know about that in May! Guess I'll just pray, lurk, read and wait to see how we feel then. <P>Thanks for listening! <P>**Maine, tried to e-mail you but it came back. I used the second e-mail that you sent me.
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2tired,<P>No advice, just listening...<P>(((((2tired)))))<P>I know... it all sux... and is ...sigh... just one icky difficult thing after the other, isn't it?...
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Nyneve,<P>Thanks, I guess I wasn't really doing much but trying to but it all down somewhere... I just can't see much changing and I just can't continue to live the way we have for the last nine months since he stared the A. He says it's over but then, e-mails or sees her. I really don't think he ever intends to stop, he just wants both. (notice all of those I's, Hmmmmm) Time for self reflection... thanks for the thoughts, they mean a lot.
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I don't know your story, but I certainly know the feelings we have from infidelity. Rollercoaster emotions. <P>I am glad that you are enjoying some 'calm' after the storm. I am also glad that your husband is trying - in his way. <P>I think absence makes the heart fonder when there has been many emotional deposits in that ole' love-bank, and when absence eliminates lovebusters, and the person misses having the emotional needs being met.<P>Savor the good times!<BR>TnT
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