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I've met someone after my divorce that I really liked. Then found out he lies. One of the things my XH did also. Why do people lie? Even when they are called on it and they know how important truth is to you. What is the deal? Any ideas? Does everyone lie? Are we just supposed to accept it? In my opinion relationships are built on trust. This makes me crazy!
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Hi Cagney,<P>Whoa! This is a personal sore sport for me. I would suggest that if this person lied to you so early on in your relatonship I would RUN not walk away from them. They will only tell more lies and be deceitful as time goes on.<P>Think about it, would you keep a same-sex friend as a "friend" if they lied to you?<P>I'm sorry you were disappointed with this relationship, but there are plenty of good people out there who live their lives without lieing to others.<P>Best,<BR>Jo
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Hello CAGNEY,<P>NO!!! Everybody does not lie in relationships like you describe. Someone who lies to you is showing that they do not respect you. And obviously someone who lies to you cannot be trusted. Because intimate relationships are built on trust, there is not basis for a successful relationship with a lier. <P>Don't sell yourself short. Refuse to tolerate the disrespect. Don't make an emotional investment in someone who lies. There are plenty of honorable folks out there. Keep looking!<P>Best wishes, Estes
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Liar, liar, pants on fire!<P>Of course it makes you crazy! It should!<P>That said, there are degrees of lying. Yep, most people do it from time to time involving low stakes issues. My son: "Yea, Dad, I brushed my teeth."<P>But if this person you've met mimicks what you found intolerable in your XH, send him packing. It'll only accumulate to be intolerable this time, as well.<P>I promise, there are guys out there who value truth.<P>WAT
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