My H and I are TRYING to put things back together after an A that has lasted (actually is still in and out of the fog) between him and the OW for six months. The problem is, he feels so hopeless that our marriage can work, first with the love he feels for the OW, second - with the possible resentment that he feels he will be subjected too over time by me. I've explained the concepts and read SAA and feel we can overcome most, if not all resentment with a lot of work. The problem is convincing him.<P>I can feel he still does love me after fourteen years but, most of the affection, etc. is not there at the moment. It's very hard for him to try since he feels it cannot work.<P>I need to hear from other people that were / are in the same predicament. I hopefully want to share some great success stories with him. Although I am looking for success, I know there will be some bad ones also.<P>So please get the keys HOT and let's hear from you...<P><BR>MIT<p>[This message has been edited by MakingItThruThis (edited July 22, 2001).]

MIT...<P>Welcome!! I am a WS that your husband can call on to see that it works. Take a second and go to my thread here...it is under "Good Morning All" and is a letter from a WS, in order to help others, WS and BS alike, realize that we have others out there that understand. Your H needs to know that it can work, but its a two party effort! It takes some work, and there are some rough spots, but if you are dedicated to each other, it works!!<P>*Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.*<P>Trueheart

Trueheart,<P>Thank you for responding...<P>I am unable to find your thread you're referring to. Can you give me a better idea???<P>MIT

Sure MIT...here you go<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/010715.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/010715.html</A> <P>I hope you and H both read it and it may clear some things up for him. <P>Trueheart