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I am working hard on plan A with my WS. I am being the "old" me and trying to meet all of his emotional needs...only one problem. H won't participate in any way with the EN questionaire. Any ideas on how to get him to do this?<BR>Hope you all have an awesome day!
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Ask him if he'd be willing to fill it out and go over it with you, solely in order to help you be a better spouse. At this point, don't bother filling out one yourself and expecting him do to anything.<P>If he won't do that, you should probably take it for him---evaluate yourself as objectively as possible, and make a plan to work on the top one or two needs that you think are going unmet. Judge your progress---see if he is willing to let you meet these perceived "unmet" needs, and whether it seems to be rebuilding the marriage.
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Tiny-If he doesn't want to fill out the questionaire, you can't make him. Don't push, ok? It will be seen as an LB to him. Do what K said, just try to fill it out the best you can from what you know about him and get to work!! Good luck & stay strong!
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Think about what you've always argued about prior to the A. ex.- House being dirty, not enough $...
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Prior to the A the only thing we argued about was him spending too much time away on his own, such as movies and ballgames etc. Now I have to wonder if he was alone. I have dropped the idea of filling out the questionaire for now. He thinks I should just forget and move on. Is that ever really possible? It makes me want to scream and tell him just exactly what I feel about this whole mess that he created!
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