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I'll be going out of town next week and the W (WS) will be alone with the three kids for 5 days (taking them along is not an option). She has told me that receiving flowers from me makes her uncomfortable. Getting little "thinking of you" or "I love you" notes makes her uncomfortable. But, there have been some positive signs. She is definitely trying to meet some of my EN's (just not my top one ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/frown.gif) ).<P>I'd like to surprise her with something else to let her know I'm thinking of her and that I care for her while I'm out of town but I'm kind of out of ideas. It's not likely she will get a baby sitter to watch the kids so she can have some time "alone" either.<P>I'd appreciate any advice (although the foot massage advice did not work well because she sat up the whole time and refused to let herself relax).<BR>SG
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Hmmm - how about some wonderful bath stuff, candles and a nice bottle of whatever she likes to drink. This way, once the kids are in bed, she can have some relaxing time to herself.
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Alberta,<BR>Well......I did this in the last couple of weeks (including a bath pillow and an extra large bath towel) and she said it was nice. A couple of days later she gave the bottle of bubble bath to the kids to use (its gone) and put the towel in the bottom of the towel closet.<P>What might she like to read while having her 'Calgon' moment in the bath? Now I'm serious here, stop smirking.<BR>SG<BR>
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This may be too late, but maybe just don't do anything! <BR>One thing I gave my H 1 week after DDAy and before he left town for work for 3 weeks, was a blank journal. Okay, so he has yet to even put a dot of ink on a page,(it's been over 1 year now) but I thought if he needed to sort through feelings he could do it that way. He's from the East Coast, and I found one with a Lighthouse on the cover!
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just this weekend ... for my anniversary.. I gave her a new zippo lighter, a nice pen for her purse/job, cork board for her cubicle, hair scrunchies... and hair combs and two candles for her desk at work... although the candles were used sometime this weekend in her room by her and the OM... so I provided the romance, YUCK.<P><P>------------------<BR>Husband2You<BR>*****<BR>Don't make me promises <BR>Baby you never did know how to keep them well <BR>I've had the rest of you <BR>Now I want the best of you <BR>It's time for show and tell<P>'All or Nothing' © 2001 O-Town
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