Mine is kind of self explanatory. Although, I've been thinking about changing it, because I'm tired of being the "Hurt Wife". I feel like maybe I have labeled myself and it's stuck there. <P>Any good suggestions for a new name?<P>

How about "Strong Wife"?

Self explanatory and TotallyFreakinNuts was too long!! LOL

Because through all of this, my Faith (in God) has grown stronger, and because I want to have faith in my marriage and my husband again. Then just added the 1 to make is more unique. But then I realized that in the end, I can say "faith won!", so Faith1 works! meaning, if I keep believing, things will work out in my marriage, and if not, I'll always have God to have faith in.<P>------------------<BR>Faith1<P>"Then Jesus answered, 'Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.'"<BR>Matt 15:28

Well i guess mines not very obvious but I just used how I felt and feel..... (S)till (I)n (L)ove (W)ith (L)*** (my W name).<P>silwl<BR> <BR>

oh, I'm gonna cry... that's so sweet! <P>------------------<BR>Faith1<P>"Then Jesus answered, 'Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.'"<BR>Matt 15:28

Ummm HurtWife, I suggest one of these:<P>Wise Wife<BR>The Best Wife<BR>Mighty Wife<BR>Devoted Wife<BR>Passionate Wife<BR>Virtueous Wife<P>Jo<p>[This message has been edited by Resilient (edited July 24, 2001).]

Ok so mine is boring...It's the name I chat with and it comes from me being a fitness trainer (specialty in dance aerobics) and Tiny just cause of the cool Elton John song. I am anything but tiny at 5'10 lol

Topie......great thread!! My name is NOT Louise. I borrowed this term from a great lady whom I befriended in a different support forum. When I first heard this in one of her post to me......I LMAO....I loved it. It's a term that is said in amazement of a situation, much like saying.......No Sh*t? or For Pete's sake! or Go to hell, Miss Aggie (Bal-tee-more saying) or Jesus Tits (a saying from another cyber bud who lives in PA)! I gotta' million of 'em.......<P>------------------<BR><B>Time heals all wounds as long as you DON'T pick at them!</B>

I chose fighting spirit because when I was in high school (many moons ago) my English teacher gave this name to the type of essay we were to write one day. The assignment was to pick something that we felt very strongly about and convince others that we were right.<P>I am now a teacher myself. Most people who know me think that I am the most self-controlled, calmest, hard-to-anger, soft-spoken person they know but inside of me there is a fighting spirit that keeps me going. I thought about using "Mama Bear" because I often drop my "unruffled" exterior and become a mama bear if one of my cubs needs my help.

Well, I'm <I>still</I> a Mrs. technically speaking and my first name actually begins with O.<P>I guess when I get around to filing for a divorce, I'll have to come up with a new one. I'll have to give that lots of thought....<P>Aloha,<BR>Mrs.O<BR>

My H's affair went on for a long time, but he finally broke it off when the OW kept pressuring him to leave me. She said that if he didn't it was just an affair! (This was one of the few things that made me laugh when I read her e-mails to him. So what was it--chopped liver?) Anyway all that pressure brought him round to his senses, and I found out about it at the same time that he was breaking it off. I asked me if he thought about me at all during the affair. And he said it was like the Willie Nelson song--"You were always on my mind." So when I registered for this board I called myself Cynara, because of a poem by Ernest Dowson that has the repeating line: "I have been faithful to thee Cynara, in my fashion." I would hasten to add for anyone familiar with the poem that I bear no other resemblance to the fictional character and her "pale lost lilies."<P>Cynara<BR>

I don't think that my name is too hard to figure out, but it wasn't a foregone conclusion. I was a BS, not a WS, in case you may wonder. I had serious questions about whether I wanted to be what my name says, not only at first, but also during some of the ups and downs of recovery.<P>However, almost 1-1/2 years after dday, we're still slowly progressing in recovery, and I'm still hers.<P>Steve<p>[This message has been edited by StillHers (edited July 24, 2001).]

I actually found this board a bit too late. I am an INTJ, with a very strong "I" (which is why I mainly lurk). Thoughout my H's EA's/PA's I became stronger within myself. I was able to see so many things that I was guilty of in a very co-dependent manner. I learned I couldn't change him, and that I only had power over my own life and outlook. I've always been a positive thinker and would avoid using negative phrases (sorry if this is too Polly Anna). <BR>As I became more aware of myself I was also becoming stronger I also realized that my H would forever be stuck in his world. This is the sad part, we are now divorced. <P>But I am a stronger, and hopefully improved, person. <P>ASM <P>

Been there done that, as in the pain and shame department (both inflicting and receiving ends). As in I have probably broken every rule in The Book. To the point where nothing surprises me about human nature and what we are all capable of with the right temptation. As in I have pointed my finger to judge others with three pointing back at me and OH, how I have paid my dues... I'm not here to judge anybody, only to empathize.

Seen the light of marital recovery and improvement (having seen the other sort quite a while back).<P>So I tend to evangelize the MB tenets: because, if both spouses work at it, they do work; not only in recovering from an affair, but in building a better long-term marriage and relationship.<P>The Gospel According to St. L? Hmmm. LOL.<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL

Topie, you are so creative. I love your fun threads!<P>Alberta, hey, I live in your "rival" city, Edmonton but don't tell anyone that I think Calgary is far more pretty, ok? My parents lived there for a time and my brother married a girl from Montana that he met while living there. (They live in MT now)<P>My name--another easy guess. I wanted to wipe the slate clean and start over. Fresh Start. <P>Thanks for the tears and laughs here everyone