I was wondering what you guys thought. <P>I took my wedding band off D-day, I have put it on several times sense then but when I see the W she tells me to take it off. I've done it because it made her uncomfortable and I just didn't want to get into it.<P>My question is should I put it back on? Would that be an LB?<BR>It still means something to me, I am still married we may not live together but nothing legal has been do yet. I'm not sure why it upsets her so but I want people to see that I am still married and I'm not giving up.<P>Any way thanks for the help in advance,<P>silwl<p>[This message has been edited by silwl (edited July 24, 2001).]

silwl:<P>I wear mine for the same reasons you mention. I am still married and it is out of resepct for that uniontht i wear my ring. (BTW, W still wears hers, too, though we are separated.)<P>That said, basically this site maintains that a LB is whatever somone says it is to them. So yeah, this could be construed as a LB by your W.<P>Don't know if that helps...<P>Good Luck<P>E

Wow, I'm not sure what to tell you...my H took his wedding band back to where he got it (they let you trade up, if you spend double what it was worth), he bough OW a really nice bracelet! It crushed me. I guess if I still had mine I'd wear it...Mine was bought out of a FingerHut catalog (not too nice). When H told me he was leaving, I brought it to the pawn shop and sold it. I told him if we ever got back together, I would like to have a nice ring instead of one from a catalog (by the way, I bought that one myself). Anyway, long answer to a short question. I have to tell you that in 16 years, my H never went out and spent money on me impulsively like he has for OW. It all SUCKS!

Wow--first to myownme...YUCK...[[[[[[[[[[[[hugs]]]]]]]]]]]to you!<P>to silwl---I take mine off for long periods of time...H hasn't said anything about it....he wears his and has said "I will never take it off...the five diamonds represent everyone affected by this..." (the two of us and the three boys). IT MADE ME SOOOO MAD WHEN HE SAID THIS.<P>I would wear my rings...and, so as to not LB, take them off in front of her...<P>(actually, knowing me that is not true...I would tell her...I am still married...I still want to be married...these rings have meaning to me and I will continue to wear them...)<P><BR>Cali<P>------------------<BR><I>Live Impeccably In Your Word.<BR>Don't Take Anything Personally.<BR>Make No Assumptions.<BR>Do Your Best Always. </I>

((((((((((hugz)))))))))))))) to Myownme!

sil..<P>There is only one reason for her not wanting you to wear yours...it reminds of her of her guilt. (No matter what she may say about her not wanting to be married or whatever..she doesnt want to be reminded of what she has done) I guess I have a problem with the WS being able to dictate what is appropriate in this case. If everything a BS does is a LB, when does the BS get to take control of their life and situation. Personally, I think that you should be able to tell her that you are committed to the M, it has special meaning to you, and until such time as you are not married, you will wear them. It may be a LB, as has been mentioned, but is there anything wrong with taking a stand on ones belief? Her feelings are based out of selfishness, yours are a belief and standard you have set. <P>Like WAT said once...Maybe I am all wet on this one??<P>*Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.*<P>Trueheart