My DH's Ow supposedly misscarried within days of their breakup following DDay, I have been to many sites including Gloryb, ivillage, etc. This has to be a last ditch effort to hold H!

Well can't say for sure, since all I have heard is a bunch of talk. No proof no doctor's note, etc. <P>Here is what I have been told and you decide (others here have already heard this):<P>1. OW claims to be preg w/H's child in Oct/Nov 00. Still is with her H. d/d for me is 11/22/00. <P>2. OW claims to miscarry in Dec 00. No trip to her OB/GYN. <BR>OW claims this is her 1st preg. Ws seems to be playing doctor here and since OW seems to be saying she hurts here and there that she must be preg. You know like PMS stuff, water retention etc. But WS thinks he knows enough about pregnancy (must be since I had 1 full term and one miscarriage, unless he has had more experience than I have been aware of). <P>3. I find out about my preg in June 01. A day or two before OW makes a statement about that 'she might be preg'. Oh, boy now H is really confused. H even asks me if he is the father of our child. Remember me? I am the wife who has NOT had a PA. But he swears he is the father of OW's child and swears that (since she never lies), she must be preg. Home preg test taken by OW, never shows proof to H. I have ultrasound and find a heartbeat and have pictures with the doctor. <P>4. I misscary at 7 weeks. D&C done immediately. No major blood loss. Physical recovery from my misscarriage is quick. Emotional on is still in turmoil, but that is another story. <P>5. H is now home, stressing about where he should be. I want to show him the door but he keeps coming back. At this time, OW claims to be spotting. Sends panic call to H that she is misscarrying. Oh, but wait. A few days go by before H finds out that she is only spotting. Dr. H now tells OW that she did not miscarry but that she is still preg. H goes to jail (2 days). Since H can not come home (restraining order), H opts to go and stay with OW. Sometime along the way since the spotting scare and last week, H says OW miscarried. Again, no proof. OW claims to have went to the doctor, no proof provided. As far as I know, no D&C done. Dr. H says that OW says the miscarriage was clean. Hm...... <P>Mind you during this whole time, H says that OW is 'ignorant' about pregnancies and that H has to tell her what is happening to her. OW is 45 years old, supposedly a graduate from Berkeley with a biology degree?!?!?!. Not sure about anything anymore as far as OW is concerned. <P>Somebody is pulling the wool over somebody's eyes and it's NOT me. <P>You really wonder about these OWs. They sure know how to pull the WS strings. Are the OM's as good at it as these psyco OWs or are the female hormones just better at this cry wolf stuff? <P>L.<P>

Orchid..<P>You did change the locks right? Man oh man...confusion for H, lies for OW. She is good...instead of fog she uses marshmallow fluff!!<P>HUGGGGGGGGGGZZ Orchid!!!

My H knew when we married that I could have no more children, I have four boys from a previous 15 year marriage.He has one girl. Supporting and giving attention to the kids was really all I could manage anyway! But the day he left he brought up the fact that he would like a child. 3-4 days later she is pregnant! Of course, she lost it, also no doctors, no D&C.Sorry, but I have to say the same as I have heard before somewhere here, between sh#t and syphill**s in the dictionary!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh yes, I did change the locks. H is back home 'attempting' to recover and be with his family. I read your response to Jo. Right on the money as far as I can see. Very similar to what H is going through. Sure wish he could be where you are. For now, I am 'attempting' to be patient. H knows that I am not going to reach out and do more than before. My needs and those of our child are now my priority. H can be a part of that if he chooses and it is a requirement for living in our home. <P>I wanted to add to my 'story' that during this time in June of the 'unproven pregnancy', OW requested $100.00 per month support from H and then upped it $150.00. Pretty good scam don't you think? <P>H did not pay either amount (at least that is what I am told). Do I sound a bit skeptical? I am. No longer the eternal optimist. Eye's wide open, looking at both sides before crossing the street (even checking out the crazy drivers)!!!! <P>L.

Orchid... she had the gall to request support money! How did you find out about that. Did H tell You! And you were Pregnant at the time!

Hi,<P>All the info was received from H, except for the OW phone call (at 11pm) just to cuss me out and say that she was preg. Then wanted to know if H told me (which he did not). One of those, I was going to tell you excuses. <P>Yes I was preg and sick at the time. There is a thread on both the preg/child and GQII sites telling the story as it happened. Let's add to this little piece to say that the doctor also found a fibroid tumor in me at the same time. Of which they are now monitoring. Fortunately, I had previously dealt with one before (different location) and so I did not panic. <P>Yep, pretty yucky stuff. What I would say, is believe nothing that needs proof. As much as possible, act like it does not affect you until you are provided undesputable proof. OW's can resort to some pretty wild stories in a desparate attempt to keep the H, but on the other hand those Ws's do get themselves into some awful messes. <P>L.<BR>