Was not here for a few days. Got on and read these nasty notes towards me...GEEZES! Would you guys stop it already? Can you all read some of your postings again and THINK before you write? I did. I answered RealityCheck with my honest opinion on what I have personally observed here in this forum. I have seen others that felt similar to what I felt. There's nothing wrong with what I said and there is accuracy to it if you just take a deep look at the statistics...<P>While RC could have given more "flower" to his posting, he did not have to get the nasty, belittling and sarcastic responses he did. Zorweb, I commend you for not lowering yourself to this level. It's truly admirable and I feel that it affected RC more than any of the nasty comments made, no matter how many big words one uses, no names mentioned.<P>WAT please don't take what I wrote personally. I didn't direct it towards you. I did see a lot of BS's doing what I said (not being accountable)and never asked what they could have done to make their marriages better. I never mentioned you so why are you taking it that way? As far as these comments you wrote below, gosh is that the way you treat people in general? Is this what your wife has to deal with? Threatening me that if I don't apologize you will never respond to me again? WHY would I want your posts after that type of comment? Why would you want my apology if you had to ask for it? An apology comes from the heart and when you have to ask for it, it comes from the mouth, but that's it. Is that what you want? You know what, I guess this place is just not for me. But I will respond to your comments and then I am gone.<P><BR>I specifically recall answering your posts along with a bunch of others in good faith and you, at one moment, anyway, seemed genuinely appreciative.<BR>I was, and stated as such.<P>So what's your problem now?<BR>No problem, I was just voicing my observations.<P>I resent your generalization that "Most are in denial that they may have contributed to the A's..." Seems to me that "most" are exactly the opposite.<BR>Hmmm, I haven't seen anyone really admit that, however, I have seen "it's the OW/M or it's the FOG, (OH PLEASE) Give me an example, I honestly haven't seen one.<P>I propose that you are now re-evaluating your momentary relapse back to your marriage and are trying to justify having an affair.<BR>Nope, no intention of having one, he is seeing a counselor and I love him more than ever for it.<P>Gimme a break.<BR>Ok go have a beer or twelve Sorry, I was joking, couldn't help myself. <P>I personally expect an apology from you. Otherwise, I promise to never respond to another post from you again. Got it?<BR>Sorry. HAPPY NOW?<P><BR>Didn't feel nice huh. You know, WAT, I think you have enough sense to know that I am not a mean person. If I had any clue whatsoever that I would be hurting you with these comments, I would have never said them. You WERE one of the few that responded to me with genuine kindness and thoughtfulness, I am sorry if I hurt you, sincerely. It was not my intention. Please understand that while you may feel that you are the rule, you are truly the exception, most don't take accountability for their actions. <P>Now for the rest of you. I will leave because I don't like some of the doings in this forum. I feel there should be some general guidelines if someone wants to post here. Whether it be a new topic or a reply. If you guys try to adhere to it, I think this world would be a better place:<P>1) Do not take anything personally unless of course it was directed personally at you.<P>2) When posting, NEVER discount another posters post. You can disagree, but AGREE to DISAGREE. <P>3) NO NAME CALLING<P>4)Two wrongs don't make a right, when someone angers you, you get more results with honey, not lemon.<P>5) Remember, God said "Forgive them, for they know not what they do"<P>I forgive you all for your nasty comments towards me and if I offended anyone, please accept my apology. I had no intention to hurt anyone, just maybe spark some thinking (which I obviously did) but not to hurt.<P>This will be the last you hear from me. I have to deal with STRICTLY upset people all day in my line of work. I certainly don't want to come here and deal with the same.<P>Goodbye and Good luck to all of you in your relationships. <P>~FLgal~ <BR> <P><BR>