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Can I write the no-contact letter for my WH? I would have him read it and sign it and give it to the OW. He isn't interested in writing it, but he appears to be committed to our marriage. He has told me a lot about the A. He seems to just rather avoid her than to give her any indication that it is over.
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sorry about the duplication.................
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I replied to the wrong one! LOL<P>I'll repeat what I wrote:<P>I don't think there's a problem if you were to be the one who writes the no contact letter, so long as your H reads it and agrees with what is written. But keep in mind that it isn't absolutely necessary to have the letter sent in order for recovery to happen (although it does help with the healing for the BS).<P>Karen<BR>(okay, different wording here, but the same gist. grin)
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STRESSED-OUT,<P>One thing that might make a difference to your husband is that the no contact letter is as much for the BS as it is to end the affiar. My husband did eventually send it because it was important to me that he show support of me to the OW. Look at the no contact letter. What it says shows that the WS is not totally commited to and supports the BS. That is why I wanted it sent.<P>My situation was different then yours in that my H had several OW. After sending them out one of his OW contacted me. She was hurt because the no contact letter was, in her words "all about you". <P>Topie is right that the letter is not essential. If she does keep trying to contact your H then it may become necessary.<P>Z<P>The letter is all about me<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare
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