I find that humour helps, and it's amazing what you can find to laugh at. My favorite is that the OW used her dog's name as the password on their shared e-mail account. After trying her name, his name, and her child's name, bingo! <P>Does anyone else have any similar stories they'd like to share?

Dumb things? Hmmmmmmmmmmm.<P>Well, I consider sending "cards" to a married man dumb, and I consider agreeing to come and stay the weekend at the MM house, with his wife and kids, when you are in love with the MM - dumb.<P>Now that I can't stand our old family friend - I consider everything she did dumb. <P>And you know what - I was dumb for liking her many years ago. Thanks for the thread, hugs, aftershock

The dumbest thing OW#1 did was to sink her claws into MY H. Oh, I've put her through the wringer a few times. I've exposed who she really is, and am proud to say that once I did that, others put other pieces together and saw it too. Except her H. He's obviously just as dumb as she is. But that's THEIR problem now, isn't it? hehehe.<P>The dumbest thing "I" did, was to continue a friendship with her for as long as I did (over 2 1/2 yrs.. and that was prior to the EA/PA with my H). I knew she was trouble. But I thought I was safe. WRONG! At least now I know better to trust those gut instincts more regularly.<P>Karen<BR>

The dumbest thing OW did was to think that I would roll over and play dead just because she is allegedly 'thinner' and 'cuter'; you know the cheerleader sort..and I was overweight(have lost 40 lbs--more to go), have psoriasis (it's healing), and I am not afraid to let people know that I have a brain in my head.<P>As my friends have said to me, she picked the wrong wife's husband <I>this time.</I><P>Cali<P>------------------<BR><I>Live Impeccably In Your Word.<BR>Don't Take Anything Personally.<BR>Make No Assumptions.<BR>Do Your Best Always. </I><p>[This message has been edited by JustPlainCali (edited July 25, 2001).]

Cali vs. OW<P>"Smackdown VII" stay tuned for Pay for view in your town!!!<P>

They were friends, and apparently he had told her we were having "problems", and she offered her couch "anytime he needed a place to stay" - puhleeeez. Then the PA began 3 days later. That's the story he's telling me anyway. <p>[This message has been edited by Faith1 (edited July 25, 2001).]

Dumbest thing OP did was to badmouth BS. <BR>It made me realize what a beaut she was!!

Dumbest thing OW did was to get involved with MY H.<P>Next dumbest thing was that she didn't think her H or I would catch on.<P>Next dumbest thing was that she really thought I was just going to let her have him.<P>The poor fool just needs help.

Dumb things OW did?<P><BR>1. Set rules/conditions for H to live with OW. Pay $998.00 per month. NO W contact phone or in person for 1 year. Only see son on weekends. Only pick up son in a neutral place, not at son's home and not at any friends or relative's homes, send H's mail to a different address (like po box) for 1 year. <P>2. Saying the A was better than being married, then making plans to get married. Yet H says he did not know of these plans. <P>3. Put poop in Ws's underwear? <P>4. Claimed to be preg/miscarried? Twice and not go to the doctor the first time and never had a D&C.<P>L.

Orchid: <P>What's with the poop in the underwear???? Crazy... Think yours is just as psycho as my H's OW (hate to call her anything of mine).. <P>OW wrote WS a letter saying they "fell together (in the eyes of God, their Christianity...) and could rise back up together"- while still having an affair??? This is from a preacher's daughter.<P>OW wrote on MB as opposite shoes - doubt she'll do that again as she thinks it led to their last breakup. I know she's lurking though...<P>OW makes a habit of sleeping with married men and disregarding marriage vows - of course, WS does too now. He's just done it with one person while OW likes a little variety.<P>OW believes that she and WS will live happily ever after with everyone accepting her and their relationship..... WS won't even admit he loves her to some family members and definitely doesn't talk about her.

Dumb things the OW did....<P>She spent 11k in cosmetic surgeries to hold onto my H. Too bad there's no refund on boob jobs!! <P>Instead of turning him on, it turned him right off. He told me that she way over did it, and she looked ridiculous afterwards. <P>Especially when the $7k for the breasts was spent while her own children don't have bedroom furniture....I think I'll save the email with my H chewing her out over that! <P>Oh she lied about her age to him....she's 40!! And we are both 33....<P>He was spending every other weekend with me and the kids, and she couldn't reach him (musta made her nuts not knowing where he was and what he was doing!). She told him that she had pictures of him with many other women!! <P>The fog started lifting fast.... <P>I could go on and on....<BR><P>------------------<BR><I>Pain is a given, misery is optional.</I>