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I get the Plan B idea, but does it work if already divorced & he wants to come backc
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Okay, Plan B in a nutshell is "no more contact" with each other basically until an agreement is made to not see the OW again, right? Well, H and I are already divorced and he has made the attempt to let me know that he wants to try again, wipe the slate clean, take things slow, etc. Should I attempt this Plan B thing as well? Don't really know what to do at this point!
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Talk to Steve. Get his insight. <P>Hope it works out what is best for you. <P>L.<BR>
Re: I get the Plan B idea, but does it work if already divorced & he wants to come backc
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Plan B is for when they are unresponsive to the improvements you have made in Plan A , they are continuing the affair and you cannot deal with them without lot.s of lovebusters.<P>He wants to get back together, then it is up to you to decide if this is what YOU want.<P>If you want to get back together, then don't Plan B him UNLESS he is still seeing the OW.<P>Plan B is NOT to manipulate the WS. It is to protect your feelings from them & protect them from your LB's.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>
Re: I get the Plan B idea, but does it work if already divorced & he wants to come backc
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If you are already divorced then I would think you would treat him like any other man you would consider dating. Does this man appear to have all the things your looking for to even accept a date? Just keep asking yourself along the way Is this how I would expect to be treated if I was dating that that guy from _________? ( U fill in the blank). The only exception I could see is after a while you might getting into joint counseling if it seems like there's a potential future.
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Ditto what Chris said! The first thing you need to do is decide if this is what YOU want! Does this man meet your criteria of what you want in your life? Does he make your life a better place? Do you like who you are when you are with him? I would not want to start a relationship by wondering if I had to Plan B her before we ever got started, ya know?<P>*Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.*<P>Trueheart<BR>

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