H (ws) and i have been together 4 years we have 2 children and one on the way...i was working FT when we started living together but H decided he should be the "bread bearer" so i quit my job and stayed home with our son who was 3 mnoths old<P>Since i quit my job H has gone through So many jobs id say approx 8 in the past 3 years and usually with a month or more interval in between with no income at all<BR>H got fired the other day..... because he decided he was going to take a week off<P>Now we are back to no income the kids need stuff and so do we how do i get H to go find a job and KEEP it and put it as a priority in his life.<BR>the only time he went to work everyday was during his EA with a co worker<BR>I have tried to explain how much his family depends on him with out LBing <BR>but he blows me off so thati get so mad and start calling him loser etc....... i try to "discuss it" but every time i bring it up H says im bit@#ing or hounding him<BR>He would rather play computer games please help!!!!!<p>[This message has been edited by 1FuctMarriage (edited July 26, 2001).]

He's obviously not happy with himself, nor any of the jobs he's found.<P>Have you considered having him stay at home with the kids while you find full time work? It may tear you apart inside to do that, but you just going out looking for something may be enough to get him on track if he wants to be the breadwinner in the household.<P>Just a thought.<P>Karen<BR>

What does hubby do for a line of work ?

most recently he was driving long haul across county.. he has his CDL but no hazmat ..... he doesnt like working in factories and such anything where he isnt couped up

Mmmm, that's difficult. I don't have much experience in this area but I'd think this type of work is fairly transient. It's the nature of the work. Either you work for a haulage company or you take it as it comes.<P>Maybe you really should consider taking a part-time job and having him look after the kids, aka. Ellen Brokovitch in the film, whilst hubby tries something new. What's the skilled labour requirements in your area and what's the level of unemployment ?<P>Would this work for him ? I'm sure that with 3 kids he'd like to get a job. Probably just has problems dealing with some character types.<P>