To reconcile there are theee things that you must remember:<P>1. You need to create an environment where they feel safe and comfortably. Remember the turtle analogy; as long as you poke and prod the turtle it will not come out of it's shell, if you stop and create a safe environment, eventually it will come out.<BR>2. Our best defense is nothing,even if we know we are right.<BR>3. We have to accept the fact that we might have to shoulder some of thier sin.<P>These are based on sermons by Andy Stanley. God wants us to reconcile always. He does not believe in divorce.