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#933371 07/27/01 01:12 PM
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Ok, some of you know my sad whoes. I have been hanging in there with plan a's numerous times. It started back in june 2000, d-day was jan 2001, she stopped it numerous times so she said. She ended it a week and half ago, but it reared its ugly head again. We are both in therapy and jointly also. Her last escapade was suppose to be a lawyers appointment but was with the married OM also. The OM wife is preg. and from what I understand he is not leaving his wife. Today she asked me to leave, I asked her to leave. She's been in contact with an attorney to make sure i dont throw her out.which I cant. Ok, tomorrow we go to counceling again if she decides to join me, and monday we were suppose to go on a family vacation. So let me have it, what now? Cant plan B we live together and neither one of us is budging, she cant get out of the fog bank for nothing. She has read some of the ws letters and even saids wow that sounds like me, also knows he is not good for her but this isnt either. Please help, what do I DO. OH BOY thanks Bill

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Bill - hopefully you'll get some responses from former WSs.<P>I think you only have one choice - be patient. I don't mean to imply you haven't been, but if OM's wife is PG, this doesn't necessarily mean he's gonna end it with your wife, but he might. Does his wife know of the affair?<P>It sounds like you're well aware that you shouldn't leave, and if she leaves, Plan B may be in order.<P>How has your Plan A been?<P>Please consider a session with Steve H.<P>WAT

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Thanks wat my Plan A has been constant with the exception of some stearn attorney appt.s to shake her back, but nothing seems to work. I feel tomorrow they are going to ask one of us to leave or seperate for a while. I dont know, I dont want to go. And as far as the OM ending it, if there is sex involved I think his wife is going to be out of comission, so go figure.

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Bill - I'm not an attorney, but resist leaving your home and kids. I can't imagine the attorneys can justify you being the one to leave since she's the one having the affair. You may have to set Plan A aside for the legal maneuvering.<P>WAT


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