Just an update from me. I sent H that email yesterday, just basically stating I need no more contact until he can come to a decision and "meet my demands" if you will.<P>I've had 3 emails and 3 phone calls since then. He doesn't understand, he thinks I misunderstood what he wants and means, we don't need to do this... He did not give me a visitation schedule as I requested and he says "what am I supposed to do with them for 24 hours a week?, you won't let me take them to my apartment, do I just drive around in circles?" And he refuses to pick them up or drop them off at daycare during the week, so when the hell does he expect to see them?? He's trying like hell to get me to agree to have him come/go as he pleases, make me work around his schedule, not gonna happen.<P>So, yes, I wrote him back. Told him just send me a schedule that works for him and I'll let him know what changes need to be made. If it's less than 24 hours fine, just let me know when/where. I also re-clarified what I need for him to do if he's serious about getting back with me. I told him he needs to put actions behind his words.<P>Hopefully I am done now. Who I am kidding, I need to expect another flurry of emails/voicemails tonight when he gets back. Sigh... <P>

Hang tough, HbH! You're doing GREAT! <P>If he bombards you with questions again, If you want to run your ideas past us before you respond to him, feel free. There's a few of us around today, and he doesn't have to have his answers right away!!! <P>We're here for ya', and you are doing great!

HBH - let's try this. Restrict all replies to him to one of the following choices, the the order of preference:<P>1. No reply.<P>2. Only if absolutely necessary concerning some issue with the kids, a "Yes" or "No."<P>3. Only if absolutely necessary concerning options with the kids, short, to the point sentences. NO AFFECTION!!!<P>Do not try to solve his problems for him.<P>I have this e-mail to my wife pre-written for use, but I haven't needed it yet:<P>"This is an automated response to your message. Go back and re-read the letter I sent to you. Unless you're ready to commit to rebuilding our family, it is too painful for me to communicate with you."<P>Actually, I just thought of this, but it's childish and I won't use it. But you get the point, right?<P>WAT