Well...right after I posted yesterday....had to run to ER due to my 3 year old hurting his eye...what a night...I didn't call H about it since he told me before he left that there was only 2 including him unloading trucks tonight...he told me he would be too busy...besides the fact at this point in time he could be fired for doing any little thing wrong....he gets yelled at even if I call due to an emergency....well....Me and the kids were supposed to go to the Balloon Classic which was going on next to his work...with my one friend who watches them....he told us not to drop by since he would be too busy....<BR>Now I really wonder about that statement...turns out he was talking to exOW before work....<BR>He acted pretty much fine last night....was really worried when I told him about Michael's eye(corneal abrasion)...poor kid was yelling for hours....<BR>I really needed sleep since finally starting back to work tonight...so he told me to go ahead and sleep while he stayed up after a few hours sleep....he got angry that I wasn't going up yet....when I asked why he said it was because I needed sleep for work and he would take care of Michael...<BR>Well he got online....went to a site that has complaints about his work place...someone posted at him about his situation with OW....THEN...my husband states that someone else posted in reply but that it wasn't him....WELL...the new post defending him sounded EXACTLY like my H talking the other night...I mean exact words here....how he can have anyone for is friend he wants and so forth...Now my H warned mee about this post saying he didn't do it...but geeez....when I read it I pretty much knew it was him...and still he denies it...<BR>So had a bit of a fight about that one....<BR>He had told me about how the exOW was not going to see that one guy that was just going to use her...made a big fuss to him and her so called best friend that she didn't care about that guy anymore....then later that night my H gets to see her all over that guy...besides the fact she's still seeing the other one that gave her the ring!...She flat out LIED to him...right to his FACE....and yet he still defends her....am really beginning to wonder what the hell is going on here???...<BR>She has turned into a major lying slut and still he now defends her???....<BR>Also he keeps going to work 2 hrs early!!...geez....swearing he has to be there early...he just does....now I know better than this....it's really starting to kill me now....This isn't a man working on his marriage....not at all....<BR>Am about ready to kick him out again if the TRUTH doesn't start showing up soon.....<BR>Sorry all....Really have to vent...I feel like such a fool....and he slept with me last night too during all this...sigh.....I AM A FOOL.....

Ms. Mac - you are not a fool.<P>Re-read your post. There are several fools in this story - not one of them is you.<P>But, you are making the MOST COMMON BS mistakes, IMHO. You're trying real hard to believe your H before he should be believed whatsoever. You've made the silly mistake of not being able to fathom the absurd degree of dishonesty necessary for an affair. You're trying to apply rational thought to an irrational person. It just doesn't work. We've all been here.<P>What to do about it? ASSUME the lies will continue. If it gets unbearable, yes, ask him to leave and go to Plan B. But if you can stomach it, sit back and watch. With all the shenanigans going on you describe, this ain't gonna last. Let it self destruct and just be there to help pick up the pieces.<P>WAT