OK. This is something that I've been upset about ever since last night....so upset that I started crying at the party just before I left.<P>Background: We were supposed to go to a cooking competition/party for a charitable organization last night. H got ticked off at his friends on Friday night and refused to go. I went, and H didn't really mind.<P>Big topic of conversation last night was all his friends asking me, "What is Lord Clueless mad about?", etc. Just before I left to come home, one of our male friends talked to me about H's getting so angry. He said he was surprised to see me at the party without H. I told him that I just needed to get out. He said that everybody needs their space, and there was nothing wrong with me going to a party without H if he didn't want to go. He then went on to repeat that everyone needs their space, and then said that if H wants to go out to a bar and have a few drinks with his friends, then I have no business being there.<P>!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<P>Well, that came out of the blue and threw me for a loop! Now, I'm wondering if my H has been complaining about not being able to go to the bar and/or beer joints without me, and if this friend has been telling him there is nothing wrong with that!<P>Anyway, I told this friend that I have every business being wherever my H is, that I do give my H space, but that going to bars and beer joints without me is not acceptable to me. And, since I had a couple of belts of Jim Beam in me, I told him that I had damn good reason to insist on that. I told him enough that he got uncomfortable and ended the conversation.<P>I was so hurt and surprised by his vehemence on this and his meddling in our marriage that I cried and just left and went home.<P>I need to address this with H. He finally got over his anger at his friends, and I do dread his getting into another snit, only this time, at me.<P>So, what do you suggest? I don't think this friend meant to cause any harm. In fact, I don't think he even realizes that H had a thing for Cafe Woman. This same friend also seems to be romantically interested in Cafe Woman, only I think that she didn't want to be involved with him (probably because this friend has a drinking problem, as does her latest ex).<P>Despite our friend's drinking problem, he is the type who will do anything to help his friends. He has helped us out tremendously in the past, and there's not much that H or I wouldn't do to help him in any way we can. I'm just terribly hurt at what I perceive to be his possible interference in our marriage. But, I guess I really need to bring that up with H, don't I?<P>