I found this site soon after D-day, June 16. I have been plan A'ing since then and H seems committed to saving this marriage. He works 6 days a week with the OW and no contact seems to be impossible. How do I deal with this? I should say that H and OW work for a very small company and him switching jobs at this time isn't an option. I despise when I need to call him at work and she answers the phone arghhhh!! Any and all positive is appreciated <P>------------------<BR>I'm standing here until you make me move.<BR>I'm hanging by a moment here with you.<BR>From Hanging by a Moment by Lifehouse

Hallo Tiny Dancer<P>I'm in the exact same position. My H also works with OW, but unfortunately I can't say he's committed to saving our marriage yet. However, he is visiting me now (he moved into a flat of his own 4 months ago) and it seems like he is trying. He told me that she don't visit him in his flat anymore so I take that as a very good sign.<P>Unfortunately I don't have any advice for you, but I can tell you this: you're not alone. I hope we can get some good advice from the others.<P>Regards<BR>ivory

Thanks for the reply ivory...helps to know I'm not alone <BR>Are you in Plan A or B? Have you and H talked about saving the marriage? I too hope we can get some advice from the experienced people here. Luck to you<P>------------------<BR>I'm standing here until you make me move.<BR>I'm hanging by a moment here with you.<BR>From Hanging by a Moment by Lifehouse

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO CONTACT!!!!!!NONE!!!!!<P>option or not.....it will be a choice of his marraige or his job! take it from me the Betrayer to say that I had to move plum out of the county to get away from OM to save my marriage. NO sir eeeee is it possible to work that close and not keep it together.<P>Im sorry....that isnt waht you wanted to hear but i am totally serious hun, everyday reminder with OUT the OM in sight is bad enough! to be reminded everyday of what your WIFE ISNT giving you and the OW did?? hmm, id be figuring something out. we gave up a pretty padded job to move to save our marraige. We didint think it possbile but we both acknoweledge that HAD we stayed...we would most definetly be divorced. period.<P>i wish you the best.<BR>mercy

This is the post my H may "kill" me for lol.<P>He works as the manager of a small retail store, only 7 employees. His pay is above average for his field and matching it elsewhere, locally, isn't an option. I am currently unable to work due to injuries from a car accident, so we are relying on his pay. I also have a child from my 1st marriage years ago and I can't move out of state until she is 18 (next year), The OW has no plans to leave her job so I am between the proverbial rock and hard place. I don't know how it is possible for the no contact to work<P>------------------<BR>I'm standing here until you make me move.<BR>I'm hanging by a moment here with you.<BR>From Hanging by a Moment by Lifehouse

Hi TD<P>I am plan A'ing like mad! Which is a bit odd for me as I'm not used to keep visiting someone without getting any invitations. The down side of my plan A strategy, is that I don't talk about us, our marriage or the OW in order to try and avoid LB'ing. So he never said we must try and save our M. I'm just assuming it since he said once we must just pack up and go overseas for a year or so. However, I told him to give me an updated CV so I can look for a job for him, but I haven't received anything from him yet. (it's been 3 weeks now) I'm waiting for the right moment to ask him about that but haven't had the guts yet.<P>Isn't it terrible to be too afraid to ask your oun H something? Don't get me wrong - he won't hurt me or anything. I just don't want to antagonize him in any way. I just want to make our visits as nice as possible.<P>How are things going on your side? Are you OK?<P>Today I feel lonely. Just want a hug from my dearest H so I'll try and visit him tonight. Please hold thumbs!