Please help me.<P>I'm not coping well with talking to my H (WS - and separated) during this time. I've just moved interstate to have bubs and hes still back home, but coming up in a few weeks. Baby is due in 4wks. I know I have to talk to him but I feel so hurt and angry and I dont know how to trust him. I want to talk about future decisions but I dont know what hes really thinking about doing. I feel vulnerable to telling him stuff and not knowing if what he says is real. I have it in my head that he'll eventually get with OW, or at least continue with what they have now. How do I deal with all this? I want to do the right thing and do what Jesus would do. I'm so scared. <BR>Plus I'm staying with his parents and dont want to make things difficult for them either. <BR>Please give me some wisdom.<P>Dancer

Dancer:<BR>I am so sorry for your situation. I'm not sure what to suggest or advise other than let God take control & you do what is best for you & the baby. <P>God Bless...

Hi Dancer ~<P>I've been there ~ my H and I were seperated while I was pregnant. In fact, I discovered I was pregnant 2 weeks after he moved out to pursue his relationship with his OW.<P>You don't <B>have</B> to do anything but take care of yourself and take care of your baby. You certainly don't have to talk to him about anything more important than the weather and possibly any medical concerns if you are going to allow him to be with you during the birth.<P>Do what is best for YOU right now. That's what is right. Your baby depends on you, and so you need to put YOU first.<P>I was fortunate enough to come to a truce with my H during the last 2 months of my pregnancy. We simply agreed not to discuss anything controversial - we put the baby first.<P>He was with his OW all that time...I had to simply ignore it temporarily. I desperately needed his help, so I did what it took to make it.<P>(((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))<P>I came out of that mess just fine, I'm sure you will too!<P>------------------<BR><I>Pain is a given, misery is optional.</I>

I agree with Bramblerose... do what is best for YOU.<P>I've been in a similar situation as you. My H wanted out of the marriage (out of the blue, as usual to the BS at first) when I was just under 8 months pregnant with our twin boys.<P>H claimed to want to be there for the kids and their birth, etc... but he wasn't. In fact, I later found out that the night I called him to tell him that I was having an emergency c-section that night (one month early), he was out on a date with OW#1. Oh, apparently the car broke down and that's why he didn't answer my call. Whatever. The car never broke down before that night, and hasn't broken down since.<P>Just remember that actions speak louder than words.<P>My H and I are now in recovery. He pretty much missed out on the first 3 months of the twins' lives, but he's here now. For good.<P>Avoiding LBing is SO HARD during pregnancy and early post partum. Those hormones are raging, and every emotion we feel is that much more intense. That won't help you much as you're going through it, but remember that later.<P>Be thankful that you have your in-laws to help you right now. You are very fortunate. There are many on here that don't have anyone like that.<P>Right now, focus on you and the baby. Yeah, I know, easier said than done. <P>Congratulations by the way! I feel so bad for any woman due in the summertime. It's hot enough when you're due in mid winter.. I don't think I could handle a summer pregnancy for that reason alone. <P>Karen<BR>