Hello everyone. I just wanted to let you know that I made it through another day and I'm doing okay. Today I saw my counselor and updated him on the weeks events he seems to think I am finally moving on and he is happy to hear that I am now in Plan B. He's been telling me I needed to do this, but I didn't have the strength. Today I also made an appt, to see my atty. about custody the appt, is on Thurs. My WH called after work to talk to the kids and I was on the phone so i just clicked over without realizing and I said I'm on the phone can you please call back in a few min. he did so I let one of the kids answer. Then I thought I had a major dilemma on my hands because I had a leak under the kitchen sink and I felt weak and panicked and almost called him but instead I called a friend who told me what to do and I fixed it myself!! I was so proud!! I know that I may have moments of weakness but I can do this!!

Congratulations on day three and fixing the leak! I'm sure you will find many things that you can do on your own. I saw my counselor today also, and he is encouraging me to take action. I haven't heard from my H for 11 days, but he has been at the house while I'm at work. I stay late at work just in case he stops by. (avoiding the stress of talking) I know from the roller coaster I've been on for two years that you are better off taking a stand. Overall, I am less anxious when he is not around, so that is telling me something. The longer he stays away, the more I feel I know what to do for me. It gives me a chance to evaluate things without the emotions. (Well, not entirely without emotion!) I admire you for taking control. I'm almost there! <P>Good luck tomorrow!

Everron I admire you for doing this for 2 years! I'm not very familiar with your story, you say your H just left 11 days ago, has he left before? Talk about strength. Take care.<BR>Cybil

Ladies, keep up the good work! I've got an offer: you gals can ask us guys for fix-it stuff, if we can ask you to ask directions for us. <P>WAT