I've been crying since I left work. I cried all the way home. <BR>I have ok days, and then I have todays!<BR>OW decided to e-mail me today. She said that she was sorry things were not going well with me and H. She said that it had nothing to do with her. She and H were 'just friends'. Seh proceeded to 'give me advise' on what she has done in the past when 'SHE HAS BEEN DUMPED!" DUMPED!!! I've been DUMPED!!!!!! She said that I need to open my heart to other men and forget about H. I should go to the bar and get drunk with my friends and see what happens! She also said that I deserved someone much better than H. I wonder if he knows that!<BR>I wanted ( I refrained) to write her back and tell her she could shove her advise and to tell her what kind of cheap, sluty, piece of trash I thought she was.<BR>To top it off, I had one of the worst days at work I can ever remember. I love my job, but at 2:00 today, I was ready to grab my purse, get my daughter and run far, far away. <BR>How can two people be so arrogant, so self serving, so, I don't even know what to call them.<BR>I am so, so sick of feeling like this. I really do want the world to go away. For months now, the two of them have made me feel totally inadequate as a human being. They have managed to suck all my self estime right out of my body. I can't take it anymore.<BR>I am still on Plan B, no contact since Tues (I know that isn't long), but I am about to give it all up. <BR>I do deserve a hell of a lot more than either one of this cruel people are dishing out my way. Screw her. Screy him. I am a human being with feelings. I do not need, not do I want any ADVICE from a home wrecker like her. Sorry, but I am very bitter and very angry and I can't seem to get any better. <BR>I don't care about anything right now, except my daughter.<P>Cheryl

I am so sorry for all the pain you are going through. I wish I could give you a big hug. I know plan b is tough, but you are tougher. Look at what you have already been through and you are still standing. I bet you are a lot stronger than you think you are. Take a deep breath. You are a very special person, and what is happening to you is horrible. But you are not in this alone, you have us here. <P>------------------<BR>A.K.A.<BR>PondVJ

Cheryl- I wish I could make things better for you. Is there anyway you could take a few days off of work to get your head together? That really helped me. <BR> Who in the hell does that ***** think she is e-mailing you at work! What in the hell is she trying to pull! She didn't sound to sorry to me, she is up to something. Just friends my [censored]! Some women really need to get a good slap in the face. ( Sorry this sounds so juvenile but I think I'm around my daughter and her friends to much) E-mail her back and tell her thanks but no thanks for the advice. Tell her that if you need advice you'll write to Dear Abbey not to Dear ****h<P>I certainly wouldn't let her get by with this one! <BR>Talk to ya later!<P>Jill<BR>Hit em hard hit em low come on Ceecee you can go! Just my old highschool cheer.

Cheryl: I may be way off base, but maybe things are not going too well for the b**** and your H? Sounds to me like she is trying to make sure you are going to find something/someone elsewhere. Maybe she's worried? BUT, I wouldn't dignify her e.mail with a reply of any kind. Some people just love to kick you when you're down. What makes them so mean spirited? She will get hers. Someday, somehow. Take care.<P>Success Story (why me)<P>------------------<BR><BR>SUCCESS STORY<P>

She isn't giving you advice, CeeCee! She is trying to get to you, and cause you to lovebust on your husband, and this is totally munipulation.<P>My first thought is to forward that email right on over to H. But, knowing me, I'd wait at least a day until I calmed down and knew I wasn't making a mistake.<P>The nerve! That tells you she doesn't have anything better in life but to try and cause more problems. She DOES sound awful desperate.<P>You keep your chin up. You have held your cool longer than before, this time. Don't let her munipulate you into anything dumb.<P>What is her e mail, anyhow? Anyone know how to file complaints? How about a restraining order? ughhh<P>My patience is running thin already, let me have her email. I'll give her a thing or two to think about.<P>Maybe she'd like some e mail back from some of your friends here at MB?<P>No, I'm just angry that she did this to you. Inconsiderate dumb woman.

sounds like my OW telling me to "just get on with your life, hon" how dare they?

Thanks you guys, I knew you'd help me out here.<BR>There is mre to this story. She also said in her e-mail that she has seen my picture (my daughters picture too) and that I am very attractive and should and could do much better.<BR>Then, I get home from taking my daughter out to dinner tonight and my car is back home. H let his new roommate (single mom-25ish, good-looking) borrow my car for 3 days (funny, it;s been gone for 7 weeks). It is FULL of trash (fast food wrappers, cig butts, 1/2 cans of pop) and the kicker.... A BROKEN WINDSHEILD!!!!!!<BR>I have had enough. No one and I mean no one deserves this. I am about to take this man to the cleaner. I am the washing machice and I've just put him on the spin cycle. THE NERVE!!!!!<BR>I am PO! He has shown me absolutly no respect in anything he has done over the last 8 months and I am tired. I am moving on with my life, and HE will NOT be in it.<BR>I am boiling mad (as if you couldn't tell)<P>Cheryl<P>TNT- I would love to give you her e-mail

ceecee,<BR>Can you get your insurance company to go after the perpetrator? Is the insurance in his name? Insurance companies tend to get upset if two people live at the same address and the uninsured one drives the car insured to the other. My sister leaves her car here while she is out of the country, and I couldn't drive it until I got covered under her insurance.<P>The OW sounds like she is trying to get you to just go away. Sort of like another thread that was on here awhile back by a betrayer criticizing the betrayed for not giving up, although much worse of course since her email was personal. Some people are just plain evil.

Hey TNT - You know - you and I would make a great team!!!!!<BR>Come with me on my truck - we can get the BAD MANNERED OP's taken care of with the Whonk-ems!!!!! I'll Email her all right!!!!! I'd like to EMail the 25 yr old cutie roommate too!! How disgusting to return the car that way.<P>CeeCee - Don't worry hon, we're coming!!!! LOL!!!<P>Seriously, Don't waste any of your brain room trying to figure any one of them out!!! You never will be able to!! You don't need to waste your time with trying either - use your brain and time for moving you and your daughter forward through this nightmare. Unfortunately, your car has been victim to all this trash - don't let them do it to your brain or allow your standards for yourself to be lowered by getting back or doing something.<P>When I got letters or phonecalls, etc. all I did was tell or show H and say, "while you are figuring out what you want please keep what you're sampling out of our lives!!!!! This kind of crap is for a life away from us and our home, in the future make sure it stays there. I have enough to deal with in our relationship and am not going to be worrying what one of these attention getters is going to do next to get your attention. What - Am I going to come home one day and find the dog boiling in a pot like that movie? Get rid of this, now!!!!"<P>That worked best of all!! He was able to see that the ones who had done things like that were wacked!! Talked to me about everything he was into and was one of the only times he apologized!! Not for cheating but that he allowed it to get close to me (like making me scared and angry). He really kept his two worlds apart!!! Never to meet!!!<P>He didn't like it that they contacted me and those were the ones he got rid of quick. Unfortunately, they all didn't contact me!!! Oh Well..........<P>Anyway, my point is - I knew of the "separate worlds" thinking of my H and that he wouldn't like it regardless of his not wanting to be with me.<P>Do you know how your H would react to this contact? Let us know!!<P>Hugs and I hope this helps some,<P>Sheba <P>

You guys are the BEST!<BR>My first instinct was to call the SOB, but I decided that it was not worth it. It is only a car.<BR>Anyway, I am getting ready for the big D. He has made on signs of reconciliation, quite the opposite in fact, and I need to get my ducks in a row.<BR>I'm not sure just yet how to handle all of this, but I know that God will help me through it.<BR>The nightmare continues. I am holding strong. I know that I have done everything humanly possible to restore our marriage, and this is what I get.<BR>I will be interesting to see what happen on Sat. He is suppose to pick up our daughter. Only, he doesn't get to do it at my house. She will be at my parents. So.....we will see.<BR>Thanks you guys. You are always there when I need you.<BR>LOL,<BR>Cheryl

Well, MY first instinct, after receiving an e-mail from the OW stating that my H (her lover) was sub-par for me and that I could do better .... I would forward the e-mail to HIM! Let HIM see that she thinks of him.<P>Altho, he may have put her up to the whole thing ....<P>I'm sorry things are bad, ceecee. Stay Strong.

CC-<BR>Didn't you say you think there is 2 OW? Maybe she's trying to eliminate you as competition! I wonder what she sent to the other OW! It was probably worse!<BR>She's not too bright, is she?<BR>TNT

Yes, I do believe that there is another women, not the two that he lives with, but maybe. Who knows what is going on.<BR>I really would like to email H this message, but I think that I will refrain. I figure that less I interact with either one of them the better. They will get theirs.<BR>I'm very confused today. I don't even know what I like to do with my life.<P>Cheryl

ceecee,<P>Here I come riding a white horse to save you!!! <P>I say you send her e-mail address to us all and we can all let her know just how we feel...might not solve anything but it would be fun.<P>Anything I can do let me know<P>

I can imagine your confusion and hurt, and anger. It is legitimate anger. <P>Praying for you CC.<P>TNT

Hey, Ceecee. I kinda like the idea of ALL of US ganging up and clogging her e-mail. Should be an interesting experience!!! (I know I have a few choice words...) Hang in there. You're doing great. Don't waste all your good energy on that ******* (fill in w/ one or any of a few choice words!)<P>I'll talk to you later.<P>Lori