RE: Should WS lifelong friend go? <P>I wrote a letter to my friend telling her how H&I felt she was a bad influence and that she couldn't be trusted by H or I. I tried to tell her as nicely as I could. I wanted to give her an opportunity to explain her feeling and why she gave such destructive advice.<P>My friend came to my place of work yesterday and threw a letter at me and said nothing and walked away. My H read the letter later that night because I was afraid it may be hurtful. The letter turned out to be very hateful and negetive. She insulted me and my H and our marriage together. She denied ever having been involved in my A with the OM. She said she knew nothing of the A until it was over and said she didn't remember the double date she participated in. <BR>I just wanted to let her know how I feel and why we were stopping the friendship for now but did leave the possibility that things could change. I wanted her to know that she did effect our marriage in negotive ways. I knew the letter I sent would hurt her, but I thought she would be more understanding and consider what H & I are going through. Not only did she not understand but she definately wasn't considerate of the condition of our marriage and what we are going through. She bashed our marriage and our whole family. I have now confirmed my feelings that she wasn't a true friend. I feel she burnt the bridge and has only made it easier to drop the friendship.<BR>I just felt those of you who read and or posted on my topic would like to know how it turned out.... you were all correct in that she definately wasn't a friend at all. thanks.S