Hi everybody,<P>just want to give you a quick update on my situation and a few insights.<P>Plan A is going very well despite a few setbacks being created by me. For those Harry Potter fans out there, the OM has now been named Voldemort !!!!! that’s how I refer to him anyway. <P>I’ve made the mistake of letting my jealousies and needs endanger my Plan A. Shoot that Taker, I say !!!! And yes, I’ve been obsessing a little on certain aspects of our relationship which have been missing. And, you know what – I’ve gone beyond this now. I’ve actually gone beyond the point of worrying about my W having an affair or the affair continuing. It doesn’t matter.<P>What matter’s is how I react to the situation and what I do as a person. Over the weekend I realised that I could live without my wife. I’ve chosen to live with her and I want our marriage to work but both of us have to feel this way. I’ve been responsible for some poor behaviour which has driven her into the arms of somebody else but it’s me that can change that and I’m doing it too. I let her hurt me, which caused me to withdraw from her but I’ve stopped that. <P>When her behaviour hurts me – I’ve told her what I thought. I didn’t and don’t judge her actions or behaviour, I just tell her how it makes me feel. Sometimes she cares enough not to do it. And sometimes she tells me it has nothing to do with me. And this is something I can respect. <P>The 15 hours a week togther is fantastic. Do you know that since D-Day (June 15th) I haven’t watched ANY TV. I haven’t watched one film, one program or anything. It used to be how I relaxed in the evening and I haven’t missed it at all. Now, when I come home from work, I talk with my wife. We share some wine together on the terrace, listen to music or do something together. It’s great. <P>Even our friends are saying ‘what’s wrong with him?’<P>I feel great – and day by day, I’m getting a little stronger. <P>Freddy,<P>PS: For those really interested – we’ve been intimaten with each other – and it was great <P><BR>
