Faith 1,<P>Thanks for the input!!<P>I will ask her to complete the EN quest. I asked her to do so right after D-Day but she wouldn't. To soon I guess. I<BR>asked her last night if she is happy with me and are things better between us. She said yes to both. But I am confused and hurt.<P>I have been working xtra hours to help with $. And W has worked during the summer in a Full time position. So it<BR>sounds to me like she is trying to cut ties with OM but can't as of yet. <P>I was thinking of presenting W with the proof of the OM depositing $ into her acct. but that maybe a Big LB to her.<P>Positive

Don't push too hard on the questionnaire. We have to make the WS knows that we trust them to make their own decisions (even though we don't understand them sometimes.)<P>TO answer your question earlier, HN/HN is His Needs, Her Needs, the basic book written by Dr, Harley - the basis for all his principles that we follow here. Get it and most any bookstore and you can probably read it in a day ot two.<P>I wouldn't bring up the account thing. YOu said tht was her account, and you shouldn't be looking at it right? Will likely cause more harm than good to bring it up. You KNOW about it, so what's the point in bringing it up? You need to Plan A your buns off, and remind her in a Plan A way, that OM needs to be out of the picture (no contact). Plan A will take care of itself for now. Leave out the account thing.<P>Hang in there! Keep reading! <P><P>------------------<BR>Faith1<P>"Then Jesus answered, 'Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.'"<BR>Matt 15:28

Good idea on the "no push" will do so the EN quest. True, continued speaking of acct. is not good. But it sure is hard to keep quite about it.<P>Any ideas on how to word in a Plan A fashion that No Contact is needed? <P>I asked he 2 days ago if we could write a No Contact letter. But she said I could do it. Told her that she needs to write it, and left it at that. I have also told here and asked her that No Contact is needed for us to move on. Just last night she told me that "you will never be able to forgot about it (A)". My response: it is hard for me to forget with this continued contact happening. It seems that we are stuck on this, and are just running around in circles, and not moving on.<P>Any ideas appreciated,<P>positive

gotta run for now - gotta meeting. Will be back later - promise .<P>bump up for anyone else that has some input... <P>------------------<BR>Faith1<P>"Then Jesus answered, 'Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.'"<BR>Matt 15:28