Hello everyone. I have been lurking for a couple of weeks and decided to "join the club!" I found out on June 25, 2001 about an A that H had some time ago. It started when he was demoted from a job, I was 7 1/2 months pregnant with our son, he was approaching the age of 30, as well as other minor (I thought) details that were array in his life. The OW (actually only a mere child) was a temp who assisted him at work. I worked with her also after my daytime job for a brief time during some big company projects. H and I do not work at the same place but they contracted my services during crunch times so I knew her too! I guess that were together many more hours a day than we were so they talked a lot. H says that things actually started a game to see what she would do. He admits to seducing her and that she denied his passes for a while. One day she gave in (at work) and that's when things began. They both swear that there were only 3/4 times when "relations" occured but spoke daily concerning our marriage and what was/wasn't happening. His first mistake, not coming to me that he became unhappy. She left to take another job so they began emailing from workplaces and calling on cell phones. He never stayed out late or gave me any clues that things weren't good at home. Sure, there was no sex for awhile as I was as big as grandpa's barn being pregnant. She tried to call things off and he insisted he was telling me about them. He never did. They haven't seen each other in over a year and nothing sexual has happened in 1 1/2 years. They were still emailing until I found out but he immediately admitted making the mistake, answered all questions I had, and sent her the no-contact letter. I truly believe that he did not even know who he was during that time and that he is truly regretful. We have determined that our individual needs are not all the same and that we didn't realize that before now. My list is in his mind and his in mine.<P>I have read a lot of interesting and MOST HELPFUL information at MB and thank everyone who inspired me to make things work.<P>Thanks again for past/future support.<P>Never imagined

Glad you found us!!! Sorry about your past situation. Keep reading, especially any "welcome" or "newbie" type posts you see. Did i read right? THings are on the right track for you and your H? Are you in counseling? Are you working on the MB principles together?<P><P>------------------<BR>Faith1<P>"Then Jesus answered, 'Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.'"<BR>Matt 15:28

NI, I am so happy to hear your H and you are in recovery. Are you following the MB principles and is your husband willing as well? <BR> <BR>You sound so positive in your post. Do you see any signs of withdrawal yet? Please try and be prepared - just incase.<P>HbH