I haven't posted in a while. For those of you who do not know me. H moved out 16 months ago to live with OW and has showed no signs of coming back. He is in love! I have tried to carry out a long distance plan A but lately have had next to no contact with him.<P>Last week he said that had a lot of decisions to make and perhaps the children would never meet with OW. Perhaps it would be better for everyone if he was on his own. He also asked daughter if she would visit him more often if he was on his own although he did tell her that this would not mean that he was coming home.<P>I am really confused and am not sure what to make of this<P>Any suggestions would be appreciated.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><B>Last week he said that had a lot of decisions to make and perhaps the children would never meet with OW. Perhaps it would be better for everyone if he was on his own. He also asked daughter if she would visit him more often if he was on his own although he did tell her that this would not mean that he was coming home.<BR></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Annie,<BR> I don't know you situation, other than what you just posted.....but I would take it as a positive sign!<P>He SAID he would be "on his own" - and children "never meet with OW." It sounds to me like the "fog is lifting" just a little....<P>I would take it for what it is.....he wants to be "on his own" - maybe OW won't be in the picture? Don't read too much into it, but it sounds positive to me! And remember, "Actions speak louder than words." Go with what he DOES, *not* what he says!<P>As my best friend is always telling me: "Take baby steps, just baby steps....it'll still get ya there!"<P>Good luck, I will be praying for you.<BR>Lupo<P><p>[This message has been edited by lupolady (edited August 04, 2001).]

Thanks lupo<P>I think you are right. We all need to be reminded sometimes that baby steps are all we can expect right now. I will keep being the best person I can be and let it all go at his pace.<P>Thanks <P>Love and prayers<BR>Annie<BR>