I sent my husband a bunch of links to MB, the control site, and stuff like that, AND HE IS ACTUALLY GOING TO GO LOOK AT THEM.<P>I am flabbergasted to say the least...<P>I even talked to him about coming here to post and how there are other WS's out here and that he won't be judged. I hope he comes here... <P>I even sent him my "I want" list from the other thread and he is supposed to send me a similar mail with the things he wants...<P>I think I will start a thread for him to read. I hope everyone will give him positive things to read and give him hope and make him want to stay and post to us.

You guys...<P>I am blushing from the praise you gave me on my other thread. I sent the link to my husband and he is supposed to check it out next time he logs on (probably Tuesday). I hope he likes it...<P>Keep your fingers crossed. My H definately put enough deposits into my love bank tonight to make up for all the negatives that were withdrew this weekend...<P>I'm still on the negative side and don't feel like I love my husband, but I now have some hope that I will be crossing the threshold back to love someday.

Hi Again. I must be dreaming...<P>My H is here now, he came over right after work and is spending the day with me. (he is doing homework now so I am leaving him alone).<P>I love the present he bought me, he spend a good deal of $$ on it. He even took pictures of where he was Friday/Saturday. He didn't say this was to "prove" he was not with OW, but it's nice that he took the pictures and I can see them and know he was not with her...<P>He told me today that it's been pretty much over with OW for a while (meaning his feelings have been steadily dropping for her and gaining for me). I pretty much knew this already because the whole time he was WITH OW and it turned PA (all 4 weeks), he did not see/talk to the kids once and pretty much was just very hateful and angry towards me when we did talk, huge FOGLAND. He ran away...<P>He tells me that he knows everything will be fine. He is printing out my "I want" list today and we're going to talk about it. He even agreed to talk with his counselor on Thursday before ending it with OW!!! (he wants to call, I want a letter, so he agreed to talk to the counselor first, in other words, he is actually thinking of me and is willing to consider doing a letter instead of a mushy she-did-nothing-wrong-they-were-completely-right phone call to not hurt her feelings).<P>He says he understands what he did to me and how awful I must feel and he's very sorry. He says he realizes sex and being intimate will be very difficult for BOTH of us. Me, because of my past issues and trust and him because he doesn't believe he can ever forgive himself for what he has done to me...<P>I don't know what we're going to do about her coming back in September and being in the same school as him, but we still have another few weeks to figure that one out.<P>He is not moving home right away and wants to "figure things out" by himself for a while, although he talks about being home for Christmas and he bought the other thing for our house for when he moves back...<P>I think the counseling will help with this though and I don't think I can deal with him having his own apartment when school starts back up... <P>Oh yeah, he is taking me by his apartment this afternoon so I will finally know where he lives. I told him I want to burn his bed, he's okay with that (when he moves back in with us).I'm serious.<P>I still think I'm dreaming and I'm sure I'll have some more anxiety attacks and need help from my MB friends. My husband will be going on to check that thread I started for him tomorrow, so PLEASE keep adding posts to it and make him feel welcome!!<P>Here's the link: <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/011401.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/011401.html</A> <P><BR>HbH

here's a pinch for you :-) and it's great news.

HbH, <BR>pinch from me to you! that is so awesome, how's you do it. share your strategy with us. did he move out? how long was he gone? i'm so happy for you and wish you the best!<P>Praying for ya!<P>GC

Dear HbH,<P>I am happy for you. Remember what we discussed, breath and take small steps. Let him come to you. You be there to receive him back with love and care. <P>Take Care, <BR>L.

I'm happy too. Still sounds good.<P>I was happy to post to your thread to your H. I hope I can bring my H here one day soon.

HBH:<P>Pinch, indeed! Hopefully, these are the first teetering steps on the road to recovery. That's one road where zorweb and I <I>want</I> a traffic jam!<P>Well, you are at the tollbooth and have paid the steep admission price for this road. Ultimately, however, it is a very, very rewarding one. For not only do you have a chance to recover your marriage, the long-term benefit is a <I>better</I> marriage. The MB principles far transcend just recovering from an affair, it is a darned good way to conduct <I>any</I> marriage.<P>Godspeed and a big smile,<BR>STL

HBH,<P>I'm so very happy for you! Good luck!<P>Anna