Hello,<BR> This is my first time on this board. Just needing some advice as I really don't know what to do. My husband cheated on me 2 yrs. ago. We had only been married a yr. at the time I found out. I believe it was not the first time. This was with a woman he had never met, actually he was away at work and was suppose to be installing a satellite for her. But he did more than that.<BR> It has been 2 yrs. and I hate him for that. I have never recovered and I don't even like him anymore but I have stayed with him. We have 2 children. A 4 yr. old and a 2 week old. He doesn't help me out at all. We haven't had sex in almost 8 months and I don't even want too. He hasn't tried to either. I threaten to leave all the time, but I never do.<BR> I am very unhappy and I can't even smile at him or begin to talk to him. Should I leave??? He is in the military and everytime he leaves to go anywhere, he's leaving for 2 weeks again soon, I lose my mind thinking of the girls that will be with him. I can't continue to live this way, what do I do??<P><BR>Please Help,<BR>April

April,<BR>I'm so sorry about your situation. I'm sure you have read through the principles on the marriagebuilders.com web-site??? Only you can decide if you have the strength and desire to work on you and your marriage. Read through the principles from Dr. Harley, and go to the Just Found Out forum, and look for the Welcome New BUilders post to gather some information.<P>TO answer your question, this is a marraigebuilding forum, so I doubt anyone here will tell you to give up and leave your husband. I do think that you need to do something. If you decide to work on yourself and your marriage, learn about Plan A and begin implementing it immediately. I also suggest you seek guidance from a counselor, either call in here to Steve or Jennifer Harley, or seek local help. <P>Welcome to the forum!