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How should I talk to my kids about the up-coming event?
#936730 08/07/01 12:02 AM
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<p>[ January 10, 2002: Message edited by: LonelyAtNight ]</p>
Re: How should I talk to my kids about the up-coming event?
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LAN,<P>Much more than you think, is the answer to your question. If nothing else they have learned that people in love sleep together whether or not they are married, from TV. Secondly, 13 undoubtably knows more than you think. I would also suspect that they have picked up the strain in your relationship with the W.<P>Finally, 13 and 11 is old enough to understand things and I suspect being honest with them, will go a long ways toward helping them adjust to the new situation. I am not saying divorce doesn't hurt or affect children, it does. But, they will understand things more than you realize.l<P>Hope you get more opinions on this.<P>God Bless,<P>JL
Re: How should I talk to my kids about the up-coming event?
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It think you already answered your question of where to start. You said "They have NEVER seen us sleeping in the same bed through the night. This abnormal became so normal to them that if they see us together in the same bed it would look strange to them."<BR>Let them know that know that this is NOT NORMAL intmacy for a man and wife to have to live with. Sounds like they will already have negative feelings/emotions about intimacy seeing as they have never been in an atmosphere of seeing a man and wife sleep through the night in the same bed. Maybe you should discuss what they think marriage is to them, what it entails, what they would consider a healthy marriage and take it from there.
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