I finally get to post an encouraging update <P>My W and I went to counseling yesterday. It was (in my W's words) one of the best counseling sessions we've had. She said that in the last session we were told to have more communication, but that it felt like we were being thrown to the wolves. This time we were given specific examples of how better communications would have improved isolated incidences throughout the past week.<P>Earlier in the session we talked about the weekend (we went to a play together with my W's mom and neice). A little background - On the day of the play I decided to buy my W a rose, but felt awkward about giving it to her (would she think that I was trying to hard or pushing). So I bought one for her, one for her mom, and one for her neice. My W picked me, I walked out to the car and put a rose on her seat, but then immediately said that I had bought one for her mom and her neice as well (I was trying to downplay the fact that I gave her a flower). She looked very nice, but I never once told her that she did - I guess I felt akward. After the play we were walking back to the car and she saw some guys doing paintings (spray paintings that look futuristic). She immediately told her mom and her neice to come look at them. We had seen these kinds of paintings last September when we went to Austin for our anniversary. I did not walk over with them because it reminded me of a time when things were wonderful between us. <P>Now fast forward to the counseling session. She brought up the fact that she knew that giving me a rose was special but that I immediately downplayed it by saying that I bought some for her mom and her neice. She mentioned the fact that I did not say anything about how she looked. Finally, she told me that she knew exactly why I didn't go over and watch the paintings with her. She then told me that I could have come up to her and told her that it reminded me of our wedding anniversary. THEN she said, "David, our past CAN help us right now." <P>Last night, I took a dozen roses over to her with a card that said: "This is what I wanted to do and should have done last night. These are for you and no one else. Love Dave. P.S. You looked VERY nice last night."<P>As we were watching our sons football practice later last night, she put her hand on my arm and said thank you for the flowers.<P>I just printed out the Marriage Builders Weekend information and am going to give it to her tonight to see if she is interested in going - wish me luck.<P>S&C<BR>

<P>I'm so happy for your good news! Good luck, and we look forward to seeing more!

Great news! Way to go!

Way to go! It's great to hear some good news around here! Keep up the good work, and use every oportunity to let your love sign before your W and everyone around you, which it seems you've learned at counceling.

Way to go! I'm hoping and praying for ya!<P>zen

YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!<BR>This is wonderful!!! Share your feelings david. Once you start it gets easier. (((hugs))) cl

Great job! What an encouraging story. It's nice to read positive posts every now and then. (hope to see lots more!)<BR>June