I'm new here and desperately need some help. I suspect my wife is having or has had an affair. I have never posted on any bulletin board before and have some questions regarding working offline as mine is a long story and i am a lousy typist.<P>1. Can I write my posts in outlook express and then e-mail them or cut & paste to the board or do I have to stay online? I have only one line in my office & I have a business to run. I started writing the other day, working with the web page offline, and then lost everything when I tried to save it to my Documents.<P>2. How should I start- with our current situation, our backgrounds, the history of us ??? <P>I'm sorry for all the questions but I just want to get it all out. I have been going through years of nagging suspicions,anger, frustration,and hurt and desperately need to talk. I am at the lowest point of my life and really need to turn thing around for myself, my wife, and our children. My wife has told me that I'm paranoid and have a problem and that I'm just trying to find a way to blame her for all of our problems!! Maybe I do have a problem- if so I know you all will tell me.<P>I am about to crash, I am the failure of failures, the prince of fools. I feel so lost and so alone- God help me, please, and show me Your way

I have used written things in Word and cut then pasted...you will need to use keyboard commands...<P>Your background and history would be helpful for our understanding of your situation...<P>Welcome to MB...please read through this site...especially the Basic Concepts...<P>Going to the Just Found Out forum will also help as there is much beginning info there...including noteable posts and explanations of acronyms, etc.<P>Cali<P>------------------<BR><I>Live Impeccably In Your Word.<BR>Don't Take Anything Personally.<BR>Make No Assumptions.<BR>Do Your Best Always. </I>

seekr,<BR>This computer is acting crazy so I sure hope this response posts. <P>First, Welcome to Marriagebuilders and I'm so sorry you feel the need to be here. Since you are here, I want you to know you'll be surrounded by the kindest, most helpful group in this world. The people here are great! PLEASE, take the time to read all parts of this forum, especially the General Welcome found in the "Just Found Out" forum. You are going to get many responses to your questions and much advise that you won't understand or know how to put into action if you haven't read the site completely. I know reading is the LAST thing you want to do right now,,but believe me, it'll pay off. <P>As to the question regarding posting your story.. Type it just like you were talking to us. Let us know the length of time you've been married, approx ages, kids, and the reasons for your suspicions. It doesn't have to be a novel or in any particular format,,just whatever you feel comfortable revealing and feel is relevant. Don't worry about typos or spell check,,we'll figure it out. Just one perhaps helpful hint,,don't type in all caps,,and make paragraphs. It sure makes for easier reading. Also, try to respond to each person that replies. That encourages each poster to continue to respond to your posts, since they now know you at least read and considered their reply.<P>seekr, looking forward to hearing more from you. As I said, just tell us alittle about your situation. No need for a long bio,,you can always add details in future posts. Please remember,,you are NOT a failure or a prince of fools. This is NOT your fault. You may have contributed to a break down of the marriage but an affair is NOT your fault. Please read,,read, read. And feel free to post. You are not alone and there are plenty of friends here in similar situations to share, to advise and to lend a shoulder if needed. <P>

Welcome <B>seekr</B>...<P>...click on the underlined words to get "there" quicker!<P>There is a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>Do start on a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<BR>Check out my post <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A>.<P>You are not alone in this...<P>You're not a fool...<BR>...and while you may have done things to hurt your marriage...<BR>...the abandonment that is possible by your wife <B>is not your fault</B>!<P>Start on Plan A...<BR>...it is what you'll need to do to move first closer to God... and if it be his will... your W.<P> <P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Jim</A> / <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>NSR</A><P>PS: Do cut & paste... and if time allows... spell-check too...<BR>...many of us (myself included) don't spell check often enough.<P>If you want a place to "describe" yourself/your situation...<BR>...see the links in <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000555.html" TARGET=_blank>Roll Call Index</A>...<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Profiles</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>Roll Call</A>(General) and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000332.html" TARGET=_blank>E-mail Exchange</A>