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#937552 08/09/01 07:09 PM
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My H is here. He's doing everything right. The kids are happy. Life is grand, so why can't I just be happy? Why does everything trigger memories for me and make me want answers that he just won't give? I don't think I'm going to get through this recovery process. I think I'll soon be posting in Divorced/Divorcing<P>~TD~

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Hi Tiny Dancer. I'm sorry to hear that things aren't going<BR>as well as you would like. Why do you feel as though you are not happy? I have no advice to give you as my WH is not here, my kids are suffering and so am I. At this point I'm beginning to wonder does it ever get any better. Before, during or even after the A has ended? I just want to be happy too and have one day, one week that all this s*** doesn't consume my life. It's always there. Hang in there TD keep praying. Hugs,<BR>cybil

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Thanks cybil [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<BR>I just think that all my feelings regarding his A are being shoved under the rug so that we can live happily ever after and for me to say so is an LB. I sincerely need some answers and if he can't give them I don't see how I can stay because to me that shows a total lack of respect for me and my feelings.<BR>I'm sorry for your suffering and the suffering of your children. Why can't spouses think of all the hurt they'll cause before they jump into an affair?<BR>You hang in there too, you're in my prayers [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>~TD~

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TD, I don't know why we can't be happy, but I feel the same way you do. It is awful, seems to hang over me all the time. My husband is going to counseling even, something I thought he would never do. It has been 8 months since I found out. I havent been really happy a day since [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] I think I feel this way because this is the same as mourning a death. A death of a relationship that I thought we had, death of values and morals that I thought we shared. I have been married 23 years. Much of it seems like a lie now. I hope you find peace.


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