Hi all, I haven't posted on this board in a long time. Actualy I haven't posted period in a long time...<P>It has been 20 months since my Ex left for the 17YO LRB and they are still together...We have been divorced since 16Feb 2001...I say these things because inspite of all I have been through my life is better than it ever has been...You might think he didn't really love his wife or care about his marriage that much...If you search my archive you will see nothing is farther from the truth...<P>I had to realise early on that My W and I might not reconcile, I accepted this possible fate, yet went on using the MB ideas and ideals in hope of recovering my marriage...That did not happen; however, I am recovering from her affair nicely...It has been well over 6 months since she occupied my last thought before I drifted to sleep and occupied my first thought when I awoke...I will also say this, not once did I have to use any mind or mood altering substances since this happened, in fact on 2September I celibrate 5 years of total sobriety...<P>My point is this...<P>Going through this is rip out your entrails painful <B>BUT</B> there is anotherside that is better than you could imagine...I promise....There is a catch...I had to follow <B>ALL</B> the MB suggestions...Do Plan-A and Plan-B...I had to turn the fate of my marriage over to God as I understand him...But most of All for my own sanity I had to commit to not allowing Lovebusters seep into my relations with her...To this day I am free of commiting lovebusters against her...I have my sanity and my life...I beg each of you who read this to do these things and the rewards and gifts will surpass your expectations...Let go of the resentments...Why give another person that power over your mind? Believe me it is that simple...<P>God Speed to each and everyone of you as you seek the recovery you desire but don't be resentful If your marriage doesn't reconcile...It is just Like Dr. H says in his book...I promise.<P>Much Love,<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR><P>May the roads rise to meet you,<BR>May the winds always be at your back,<BR>May the sun shine warm upon your face,<BR>The rains fall soft upon your fields,<BR>And until we meet again,<BR>May god hold you<BR>In the hollow of his hand.

Hey Bill!<P>You're absolutely right!! <P>Mitzi

Hey Bill,<P>you are so wise.<P>thanks for sharing. <P>your right MB principals are away of life not just a marriage saving techinque

Yeah! What he said!<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

Now I'm blushing! LOL<P>Thanks you three....You held my hand from the beginning...Amazing how much we grow, isn't it?<P>Bill

Yeah, G, there is hope. You're a smart man to know this. It IS about you, your life, and you are in control of it.<P>I guess some of us think that there is hope in the marriage because the WS keeps throwing us tid-bits here and there to let us think that they care when they care only about their own feelings. They want you to continue to fulfill your role in their lives while they do want they want. That's why so many folks hold on. I am sure you can relate.<P>It's important to say--there is HOPE for YOU, the abandoned one, on the other side. You are what you make of yourself--if you want to spend the rest of your life being betrayed and bitter and afraid to love again, then that's your problem. You have made YOURSELF that way.<P>I think that God's gift to us is life. Our gift to Him is what we make of it. I think that the greatest challenge He poses to us is what we can make of ourselves when we are alone.<P>Your a smart man G.

Wow,<BR>What a great post...thanks for the hope for a better future. Sometimes I don't see a very bright one.

Hi <P>Glad the suns so bright, Bill!!<P>Hugs, Sheryl

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A wonderful post and I commend you on your fifth year of sobriety.<P>God's plan, His timing, and our hope is what we should all count on.<P>Thanks for the inspiring update on YOU!!<P>TT

Yes! Thank you!<P>------------------<BR>Faith1<P>"Then Jesus answered, 'Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.'"<BR>Matt 15:28

Dear WilliamJ,<P>I just wanted to BUMP UP and thank you for sharing this uplifting story of your personal victory over the pain of adultery and divorce--and substance-free! Wow! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!<P>Life can only get better for you and I'm sure it will!

Bill, thank you for sharing this.<P>I believe that life will get better & better for you!