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HbH- we have to keep reminding each other AND ourselves that we are not the crazy ones.<P>I will never be able to fully thank the au pair that was with us last summer. She is a sweet Norwegian gal who, unfortunately, had a ring side seat to the early stages of my wife's affair. It was unavoidable, she couldn't NOT notice what was happening.<P>She saw my distress and volunteered that I was not crazy. That was a turning point for me. After that, I asked her frequently, "Am I crazy?", because I just couldn't make sense out of what was happening. She always answered, "No Dave, you're definitely NOT crazy. She is."<P>Please stay the course.<P>Dave
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Thank you WAT... That made me smile.<P>It is so difficult for me because my husband turns EVERYTHING around, and it's like I KNOW THE TRUTH and what I meant/said, but he just turns it all around and makes me THINK I am wrong and that I really meant what he says I meant...<P>And the thing is, he says I do the SAME THING to him!! So, it's like this vicious circle. He thinks he's right, I think I'm right and when we discuss things or what we meant at the time we just argue... It's SO frustrating. <P>It's been getting better though. And the thing I have to remember is that my H's story keeps changing, mine is pretty constant... And I have my old posts to go back to and verify my sanity.<P>Thanks again.<BR>HbH
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HbH:<P>To reiterate WAT: you are not crazy.<P>You are trying to look into the fog ... doing so for extended periods can cause periods of anxiety that pass for craziness.<P>You are the sane one. Keep up the good work!<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL
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