For anyone who is dealing with "childhood issues" - mine were fear of abandonment, fear of rejection and perfectionism - I have a reading recommendation, "Emotional Alchemy - How the Mind Can Heal the Heart" by Tara Bennett-Coleman. It has helped me separate real fears from imagined ones. Although it is not a "relationship" book, the discoveries I made about myself have obviously affected all of my relationships, including my relationship with my H.<P>I also recommend "Restoring Relationships - Five Things to Try Before You Say Goodbye" by Peter M. Kalellis, Ph.D. It is consistent with MB but is in my view more "human". I reread the chapters on love whenever I feel discouraged about our recovery process.<P>Newwoman