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She wants to sign legal seperation papers in the next month or so. It's been 6 weeks since she left. In my state it is one year before one can divorce. I am thinking of not signing the papers unless she agrees to 10 months of counseling. She may get ticked of but it a try. What does everyone think of this?
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I say <B>GO FOR IT!</B>. This may be a way to stall her filing the paperwork if she is very adamant about not going to counseling. Or, if she still files and agrees to your request of counseling, perhaps she'll gain insight into why she should protect the marriage. Either way, I think that you'll come out on top! I'm not a gambling person but this looks to be a win/win situation. <BR> <P>------------------<BR><B>Time heals all wounds as long as you DON'T pick at them!</B>
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GC - there may be value in such a deal. In hindsight, I wish I had gotten more MB advice before I signed the legal separation last Novmber. I ended up agreeing to some things that are coming home to roost now. As you get closer and get a working draft, please consult us to get as many heads on the problem as possible.<P>WAT
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Thanks for the replys, I think that is what I'll do, who knows, maybe it will work. I truly believe that if my W got into counseling, she would see some light. I get to pick the counselor also.<BR>
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<B>I am thinking of not signing the papers unless she agrees to 10 months of counseling.</B><BR>Tell her you will sign AFTER 6 months of counseling.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>
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yep, Chris has the best idea. Wish I had thought of that. Maybe I can agree to the divorce after counseling?<P>WAT
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