Spoke to WS on sunday morning just to say hi. This is the WS that is seeing a therapist today to determine whether or not she should try and work it out with me. Without my asking, she said she is leaning way over to the 'D' side. I will be flying back to her location to separate our things this weekend. She said she would tell me then. I already know the answer, and so I have no hopes anymore and have accepted it is over. What is really weird is that she is doing her best to try and make me jealous and hurt me, even though she knows I've been going to therapy and reading Dr. Harleys's books. She has two sets of friends, the bad ones that hang out at nightclubs(she rarely sees them) and the ones that are married with similar interests as us. I know she has been hanging out with the bad group since our separation, and it has made her mean and cruel. I'm sure they are trying to make her think she should do her best to hurt me now that she has made her decision, and although it doesn't bother me now because I've accepted that it's over, I don't understand how her parents can allow her to act this way. I really hope her therapist can identify how she is hurting herself before she does something to really hurt herself or someone else. Everyone who reads this, please pray for her.

I will certainly pray. I know this is hard for you. Just be there for her and Plan A best you can. And it sounds like you know this, but just remember you - or her parents - cannot control her or her behavior. <P>My H also had 2 sets of friends. "Ours" - good influence, Christian married couples, and "his" from work - young, single, "party" type. I think being around them made him want their "fun" life.<P>------------------<BR>Faith1<P>"Then Jesus answered, 'Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.'"<BR>Matt 15:28

Thanks Faith1. You always provide great advice. I sent her a short email today in hopes she will not make a critical mistake with her life:<P>Hey ****,<P>I just wanted to say that I never heard you try to be more hurtful toward<BR>me than this past Sunday, and although<BR>I am not taking it personally because I know you are still very angry at<BR>me, I just hope you are taking good<BR>care of yourself. The fact remains that you are and always will be a very<BR>special and beautiful person who<BR>many people love. You are bright, talented, gorgeous...I can go on and on.<BR>Please try to make good decisions<BR>with your life and be good to yourself. Some things, once they are done,<BR>you can never take back, and some<BR>things you never can forget. And I'm not at all talking about how you are<BR>treating me. You are very angry at me now<BR>and you want me to suffer, and that is fine. I deserve it. But please<BR>don't punish yourself and hurt yourself.<BR>One day down the line, the anger will subside, and you will feel much<BR>better, and you will move on with your life.<BR>Look beyond just tomorrow and next week and look toward your bright future<BR>ahead of you. I still love you and<BR>I will always love you, and that will never change. Don't worry about what<BR>other people think, but at the same time,<BR>be good to yourself and don't let people guide you down the wrong path that<BR>you will regret later. So many people think so<BR>highly of you, so please don't disappoint them. Take care and I'll see you<BR>on saturday. Have a good week!<P>******

Hi Inde,<P>Sorry to hear of the turn of events. You sound much stronger both for yourself and for her. This is good. You will need every ounce of that strength when you see her. <P>Our thoughts and support will be with you. Post and vent here as much as you need. Your e-mail to her sounds good. Maybe others can give their feedback. <P>Take Care,<BR>L.