I am working on Plan A. WH completely confessed to PA last Monday, after confessing to only EA for last several months. Told me she ended it with him that day. I know this wasn't his choice as he had ask me for a D the night before. On several occasions in the last several months he told me he "wanted to work on our marriage", but nothing ever changed. So he comes home & tells me the A is over and he really "wants to work on our marriage" now.<P>While he was away from home, at his discussion with the OW, her BH came to speak with my WH and when I told him my husband wasn't home he proceded to tell me of the A, not knowing if I knew or not. (or if our 7 yr-old was home). So, now that my H states the A isf over, he told me he was going to call and inform OW and her H that he did not appreciate him coming to our home and told me the next day that he did that. <P>My H and I were have many converstaions of complete honesty and he was more like himself than the had been in over a year - very open, honest, with a sense of humor and happiness. He has told me that he is in love with the OW and, though he still loves me, feels he is "in limbo" and not sure what will happen, though he hopes we can work this out. I have always been very understanding of him and this situation in our marriage and always practiced Plan A before I even found this site.<P>During our last indept conversation last Friday I made the mistake of telling him that the story of his A had made it to my workplace, as the OW sister had told someone that told someone that I work with. He again was very upset, saying that it was for me that he was upset that he family had told someone that would cause this story to be brought to my workplace (55 miles from where the two of them worked together and she lives -- like he never thought anyone would ever talk about it, please !!!)<P>I begged him not to contact her. He is well aware of the Hurley step to Surviving an Affair and know he shouldn't be having any contact with OW. I thought when he came home the next evening he was a little distant and I supressed those thought. However yesterday it got the best of me and I ask if he had spoken to her. At 1st response he denied it and then admitted he had. My problem now is, when I ask what they talked about he gave be a flip answer, became angry and told me he didn't want to talk about it. <P>It makes me feel as if it isn't any of my business what was discussed. What do I do now. I want this to work, I feel he was beginning to have the "fog" lifted in regards to his true feelings about me, family life and the implications of his actions, he was becoming remorseful. Now I just don't know. Knowing him the way I do and that he says he loves this other person, I know he will not complete recovery unless he stops ALL contact with the OW. And I feel I am entitled to know when he does speak/see her. But I don't know, while working on Plan A if I should be vocal about my hurt and anger that he would talk with her when I ask him not to. Should I set ground rules - i.e. "you can't see her or...."???? <P>What to do???? Please advise....<P>Heartbreak25130